Tired of my life........

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Tired of my life........
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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 10:30am
I just don't know how to handle my life anymore. I still get stuff done, but it takes all the energy out of me. Dealing with the 3 kids makes it really hard. DH has his own issues, and we are not really getting along that well right now. I just don't have any enjoyment anymore. And I don't have anybody to talk to. Which makes it even harder.

We don't have any family around either, so it seems like we never get a break. We never seems to have enough money, and I had too much wine last night...lol. Not a good combo.

Ilka



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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 10:50am
(((Ilka)))

Do you have a therapist? It sure helps when you have someone you can talk to.

And, I find posting here helps alot as well.

Take care

Pamela

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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 11:47am
Oh sweetie...

I'm so sorry. Things may be out of control now, but please know that it will get better for you. I know you talk about how you don't have anyone to talk to, but please know that you'll always find us here ready to listen. I know it's not the same, but at least its something. As far as the kids, maybe the church has something they can offer you for free as far as child care. I know my church used to watch kids for free during mass, and at least you'll have a little break from the kids while you're doing something for yourself. If you don't go to church/believe in God, the only thing I could suggest is to find a teenager in the neighborhood that would be willing to help watch the kids while you have some alonetime in the house. I know when I was a kid, I used to help out that way, and the neighbor would pay me like 5 bucks. Hope this helps. Take care, and we're here for you!

Trixie

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 2:19pm
I can totally relate. I'm wiped out with my 3 kids too.

Ruth, Single Mom to

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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 5:29pm
((((((((((((((ILKA))))))))))))), Sweetie, all the ladies here have given you very good suggestions. I really wish I could add to that, but I can give you lot's of hugs. ((((((((((ILKA))))))))))))

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Hang in there sweetie,

Foggy

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 5:38pm
(((Ilka)))

I know this sounds improbable, but I know how you feel and I know that I'm not the only one here. I used to feel like I couldn't talk to anyone, because how can they know how I feel, how can they understand me. After reading a few of the posts here, though, I saw that these people do know exactly how I feel, and I find solace in that. This is a great place to get some answers, talk, or just plain vent. Hope you find it as helpful as I did.

Lots of hugs,

Anya

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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 8:25pm

(((((Ilka))))));


I have all boys, and have been, sometimes still are, where you're at right now.

Blessed Be!

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Wed, 11-26-2003 - 1:40am
You are in a very difficult situation. Having depression is very hard. Having three children

controls your life. But to have both is more difficult than I can imagine. Have you

sought the help of a therapist? A marriage therapist would probably be best. If both you

and your dh are having problems, then you need communication skills to learn how

to help each other through this. Some daycare or babysitter swapping could give you

some time to yourself. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

Take Care,

MariaC