Am I a Terrible Person?

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Am I a Terrible Person?
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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 12:33pm
I just found out my co-worker is pregnant. I am happy for her...but I feel like I will never get there. She is happily married to a great guy, and now she is pregnant. I guess I should just make her my "poster woman"; that I won't settle for anything less.

Pamela

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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 12:39pm
No, I don't think that you're a terrible person. I think that everyone our age that is single and kickin' it feel as though we're left out. I also feel as though I'm never going to meet someone, or get married let alone having kids. I can't believe that you actually feel this way too. I now know that I'm normal, so know that you're normal too! I've seen all my friends get married...I'm one of maybe 3 of a group of 15 friends that still isnt married, let alone dating someone. It sucks at times, but just know someday your prince will come. I'm hoping that for both of us, that our prince is coming sooner than later. Take care, and hang in there!

Trix

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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 12:41pm
No, you are not a terrible woman. I think we all look at other people's lives and think they are so much better. Hey...I have a DH, 3 great girls and job....looks great, doesn't it?? NOT!!

It's never wrong to want something "normal". And we should never lower our standards. oh heck.......I don't know what I'm trying to say here.......lol.

Lots of hugs.......Ilka



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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 12:46pm
lol...Thanks ladies.

I feel so alone here. I don't have many friends that live around here. Okay, one. My really good friend is moving this Saturday.

I feel as if people from high school have moved on and I am still in one spot. Sigh

Pamela

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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 1:00pm

(((((Pamela))))), it's no wonder you are going through such a tough time!

 

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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 2:05pm

If it makes you feel any better, I'm 31, in the middle of my second divorce, with 3 kids, and I'm living in my parents house depending on them for support (plus child support from "the good ex.") I don't have a job, I don't have any real career skills, I'm trying to start my own business but the last few weeks I've been too sick to work.


I look at my single friends and envy their financial independence. I look at the ones who've been married for 3-4 years and have 1 baby they can easily afford with even more envy. I feel like I've totally screwed up my life by having kids so early (I was 22 when Leah was born) rather than getting settled in a career first.


I think the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. You're not a bad person for feeling envy- feelings are never "bad"- it's now you act on them that counts.



Ruth,


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Tue, 11-25-2003 - 2:08pm


Pamela,

You are not a terrible person at all so dont even go there with that you are a great warm loving person.

Sometimes when good things happen to people around us yes we are happy for them but at the same time we kinda wish that we could have those good things happen to us.

You will be there one day sometimes you just gotta have patience.

Sorry I am not full of insight today but hang in there dont settle for less and have hope.

Erin