It is all just too overwhelming...

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Registered: 04-01-2003
It is all just too overwhelming...
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Sun, 11-30-2003 - 2:04am
I don't know who else to talk to, I guess I could talk to several people in my life but others who are not depressed do not understand these feelings. I am on Meds and they have helped so much! But all the medication in the world do not solve problems or give you any direction in life. In some ways being depressed is easier...you have an excuse for not fixing your life. Does that make sense?

I have been married for 6 months and OMG marriage is hard! So much time and energy is used to try to communicate and work things out. I have a job I hate...as with a lot of people. But the stress from my job is too much. I feel like I am too the boiling point. I started taking Prilosec because my stomach hurts so badly all the time.

I decided I needed to find a new job, and have started to send out resumes. So far not much luck, but then the job market is not good right now. The sad part is that I am 30 yrs old and have no clue what to do with my life. Any position I take will be a serious pay cut. But I have gone over this a million times and I cannot deal with the stress involved with my job. I go in early and stay late just to not fall too far behind, (Forget about keeping up!) and I cannot do this anymore.

Something else I cannot seem to verbalize...and I think people here might understand, is the feeling of despair that comes from "once again" trying to find a job I like and still not being sure about what I want to do.

Ok...guess this message is not very productive, but I thank you for reading this and thank you for any advice you might have.
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 2:26am

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 3:47am

Welcome to the board!!!!


You are so right that trying to live with depression and any sort of untenable job is probably one of the worst things to have to deal with.

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 4:12am
You're so right, marriage is hard. I don't know how long you two were together before you got married, or if you lived together first, but the first couple of years is just about working out how you are going to relate. I've heard people say that the first year of marriage is the toughest.

My husband and I have been together for over 7 years and lived together for 5. It's only just started to feel natural. We still have problems, but we know better how to deal with each other than we used to know.

Try to keep in mind that right now you and your husband are creating the foundation. It is the hardest, but if you keep communicating and being there for each other, then it will get better. The best thing to remember in marriage is that the other person's happiness is more important than making things perfect or doing things a certain way.

On your job, I don't know what field you are in right now. However, you can get career counseling on this issue. There are career counselors who give you tests and help you identify the fields you will enjoy the most. I would suggest looking in the phone book, calling local community colleges, and even calling the unemployment office to find out where you can find such a career counselor in your area. Once you figure out what field you want to be in, contact headhunters, also known as corporate recruiters. These people will help you find a job much faster than sending resumes out. Sending resumes with cover letters is a lot of work and almost never gets results.

Those are my suggestions.

Good luck,

MariaC

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 8:37am
Welcome to the board. A new marriage and trying to find a new job! Yes---very overwhelming. The others have already given you great advice---so I just wanted to welcome you. Debbie