I'm sorry to hear about your son's diagnosis. Bipolar disorder is a scary illness, but as you know, medication can help it tremendously. After proper medication happens, the main issue is usually keeping the patient on his meds. People with bipolar usually love the highs of mania so much that they go off of their medication. I have a dear friend whose sister has bipolar. She does well as long as she stays on her medication. Her medication needs fluctuate. I think that bipolar is high maintenance, but it can be handled.
I'm sorry that your husband is so callous and shaming towards your son. That is rotten. But your son is blessed to have you there to understand his condition.
I was in a very bad marriage while suffering from depression. Obviously, the bad marriage brings on the depression, or at least makes it much worse. I didn't have children with him, so that made it much easier for me to leave. I thank God that I got out of that marriage. Those days of suffering with a nasty, competitive husband and his nasty family are over. It's wonderful! My mom divorced my dad when I was 9. It was the most painful experience of my very unhappy childhood, mostly because my dad used me against my mom. Within a year after the divorce, it became clear to me that it was the best thing that could happen for me.
It's so tough to be with someone who is not caring or sympathetic. I don't know what other issues you have with your husband, but I know how trapped and miserable a person can feel in a bad marriage. I felt so alone in the world. I did not talk negatively about my husband to others because I felt it would be disloyal. I also didn't want to burden my friends.
I can't believe how much happier I am now that I am with a caring, compassionate man. I dated a lot after my divorce and saw that there are a lot of miserable men out there. I was lucky to find one who's an angel and who has been through so much therapy himself that he has skills to communicate, grow and change.
As for your brothers, why do you have to tell them anything? You might protect your son more by not telling them. I come from a large, judgmental family, I don't tell my mother or my siblings anything negative about my life. There judgments and inner family gossiping only make me feel much worse.
I'm glad that you are on this board. You are clearly a kind, supportive woman.
I'm sorry to hear about your son's diagnosis. Bipolar disorder is a scary illness, but as you know, medication can help it tremendously. After proper medication happens, the main issue is usually keeping the patient on his meds. People with bipolar usually love the highs of mania so much that they go off of their medication. I have a dear friend whose sister has bipolar. She does well as long as she stays on her medication. Her medication needs fluctuate. I think that bipolar is high maintenance, but it can be handled.
I'm sorry that your husband is so callous and shaming towards your son. That is rotten. But your son is blessed to have you there to understand his condition.
I was in a very bad marriage while suffering from depression. Obviously, the bad marriage brings on the depression, or at least makes it much worse. I didn't have children with him, so that made it much easier for me to leave. I thank God that I got out of that marriage. Those days of suffering with a nasty, competitive husband and his nasty family are over. It's wonderful! My mom divorced my dad when I was 9. It was the most painful experience of my very unhappy childhood, mostly because my dad used me against my mom. Within a year after the divorce, it became clear to me that it was the best thing that could happen for me.
It's so tough to be with someone who is not caring or sympathetic. I don't know what other issues you have with your husband, but I know how trapped and miserable a person can feel in a bad marriage. I felt so alone in the world. I did not talk negatively about my husband to others because I felt it would be disloyal. I also didn't want to burden my friends.
I can't believe how much happier I am now that I am with a caring, compassionate man. I dated a lot after my divorce and saw that there are a lot of miserable men out there. I was lucky to find one who's an angel and who has been through so much therapy himself that he has skills to communicate, grow and change.
As for your brothers, why do you have to tell them anything? You might protect your son more by not telling them. I come from a large, judgmental family, I don't tell my mother or my siblings anything negative about my life. There judgments and inner family gossiping only make me feel much worse.
I'm glad that you are on this board. You are clearly a kind, supportive woman.
Take Care,
MariaC
(((((((((((((Laure))))))))))))), my heart goes out to you and your son!
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((((((((((Laure)))))))))),
I ran across another link about adolescents (and younger) with bipolar disorder.
http://bipolar.about.com/cs/menu_kids/
My thoughts are with you.
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