Help!! I feel so lonely!!! :(

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2003
Help!! I feel so lonely!!! :(
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Mon, 12-01-2003 - 4:39pm
Hi, there

I'm 20 years old and I feel so depressed. I know that in my age I,m suposed to be happy and I'm suposed to be hanging out and having fun with other people of my age.

But, that is exactly the problem.

I moved from Puerto Rico to Pennsylvania like a year and a half ago and I have no friends. I know few people from the place I work at but our relationship is like, Hi and Bye, meaning that we dont have time to talk at all because we are at work.

In my college is the same thing, everybody is in their own world and don't care about making friends. I guess because everyone has friends already. You can sit next to this person and never get to know his or her name.

My other problems is that since I'm from PR my english isn't that good, so sometimes I feel afraid of starting a conversation.

Also,I have no neighbors of my same age. All of them are elderly people or little kids.

I dont know what to do. I want to be like a normal girl, have close friend to talk with them about guys, fashion, and you know, all that girl's stuff that I used to do before I moved here.

Now, all I do is go to work, to school and being home. Im really tired of that, but I dont know what to do to make friends.

I want to feel like a normal girl again and stop being a loner.

Do you guys have any advice, I feel really depressed.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2003
Mon, 12-01-2003 - 7:14pm

Hi and Welcome!


I know how hard it is to be in a new place and make new friends and im sure the language barrier makes it more difficult. I do have a couple of suggestions for you though.


I know a few years ago I was really down and feeling lonely and my therapist encouraged me to make friends with one of the women I work with.. Well I got up the courage to ask her if she wanted to go to lunch sometime and lo and behold we are great friends now! Turns out she wanted to ask me too but was shyer then I was LOL.


So with the holidays coming its a great time to maybe ask one or all of the people you work with if they want to go out for a drink or dinner some night after work.. It is hard to get to know people while you are working.


Now about the college you go to.. Have you looked into whether they have a multicultural club or something like that? try reading the college bulletin board every day, maybe there will some activity going on that interests you that you can go to and meet

*hugs