Help-Please!

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Registered: 12-02-2003
Help-Please!
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Tue, 12-02-2003 - 5:59pm
Hi. Hoping to hear from anyone. Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions about what to do when you are too down to even go out of the house? I want to get help, but don't know where to start. No health insurance, no money, not much family, no friends. Very scared, never been this bad before. Would love to hear anything from anyone. Thanks. Take care!
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Registered: 11-18-2003
In reply to: pbinky
Tue, 12-02-2003 - 6:49pm
Does it help to know you are not the only one. Probably not too much. I am doing this workshop I found here. Yesterday was one of those days for me, so I looked back at my notes from the workshop. I don't spend enough time exercising, so i did yoga this morning. It took 20min. but I had the energy to clean and yes even went outside for my mail (I usually send my son). Today I am celebrating small accomplishments and feel alot better. What little thing can you do to lift your spirits? Maybe bring in fresh flowers, take a short walk. I hope it helps even a little. Hang in there or better yet hang 'out'.
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Registered: 04-09-2003
In reply to: pbinky
Tue, 12-02-2003 - 10:39pm
I don't know if you are in the US or not. If you are in the US, call up Catholic Charities. They offer all kinds of services for people who don't have much money and don't have insurance. They can give you guidance and even provide counseling services at their facility. They can send you to clinics where you can get free antidepressant prescriptions because of financial need.

Catholic Charities can also set up up with government financial services. They are an incredible organization. They are located in most towns, or in nearby towns in the case of very small, rural communities. You can probably find them in the phone book. If not, try online. Every day they help people in exactly your position.

Depression also qualifies as a medical disability for government support. Catholic Charities can guide you in that process.

Good luck. We're always here.

Take Care,

MariaC

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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: pbinky
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 9:16am
It is hard to find help without insurance. Believe it or not, it is harder if your insurance that you have sucks, and provides inadequate care. That was my problem, I had a bad therapist and a worse psychiatrist.

So I went to a study center. They have advertisements on the radio and TV. Or contact your closest university, they have lots of studies. I have been lucky, because I have not had any luck with meds so far. BUt I would have become homeless paying for the 8 meds that have not worked. Because my stinky insurance does not have a prescription program. The studies often investigate drugs that are on the market already...so it is not like you are totally a experiment rat. They are safe, they have to be...the governement makes sure.

That is my take on it.

Hope this helps.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.

Take care,

Lisa-)

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Registered: 12-02-2003
In reply to: pbinky
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 1:07pm
Hi. Thank you so much for your reply. I don't want it to come out wrong, I wish no one else had this kind of pain & confusion, but yes, it does help that I'm not the only one. I am going to get out of the house today. It will be the 2nd time in 9 days. I'm going to take my daughters to the nursing home where they volunter to get their pictures taken for their ID's. I figure if they can donate their time then this is the least I can do for them. If you ever want to talk, I'd be glad to.

Thank you again & take care of yourself.
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Registered: 12-02-2003
In reply to: pbinky
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 1:17pm
Hi. Thank you so much for your reply and the information you gave me. I appreciate the time you took. I am in the U.S. There is a Catholic Charities about 1 hour away from me in Salisbury Md. If I can force myself to talk on the phone (which I haven't done in about 2 months) maybe I can get something done. It's like a no win situation, I have to go out to get help or to get a job so I can get money for medication, but I feel I need the medication to go out or to get a job. It's tough. I've only been out of the house once in 9 days. I don't even go out to get the mail. But I am going out today. I'm forcing myself to take my daughters to get their pictures taken for their ID's for the nursing home they voluteer at. I figure if they can volunteer their time, it's the least I can do for them.

Thank you again, and if you ever want to talk, I'd be happy too. Take care.
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Registered: 12-02-2003
In reply to: pbinky
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 1:28pm
Hi. Thank you so much for your reply and information. I appreciate the time you took for me. I will try to look into it. It's hard, I haven't talked on the telephone for over 2 months. I've only gone out of the house once in 9 day. I understand about a bad therapist. I went to one for almost a year. It was a big step for me to go and I was so happy, I thought she was going to change my life. I also felt so lucky because I only had to pay $1 for an $80 visit. But things went downhill after 1st visit. I found another one last month. I went to her once but then she ditched me for 3 weeks for Thanksgiving. I have an appointment with her tomorrow that I'm going to try my hardest to keep, just to see what's up.

Thank you again and if you ever want to talk, I'd be glad too. Take care of yourself.
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Registered: 11-01-1999
In reply to: pbinky
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 3:18pm
Well these other ladies gave such great ideas. Sweet heart I was just like that when preg w/my daughter. I had been released from the hospital after being in for 3 days for hyperemisis. I beat myself up over every little thing. DH rearanged the whole house b/c my DR recomended *sun light therapy* Sh Dh brought our bed into the LR and put it right under our Bay Windows. To check the mail we would have to go down 3 flights of stairs and to the entrance gate (we were in an appt.). I HATED IT!! But B/c Hubby didn't give me a choice and i wouldn't let my son out of my sight (more out of guilt the I'm a bad mom if I can't be there 24/7 thinking). So DH would pick up ds and of course I would drag myself up and relectantly follow. One day DH got me down the stairs then put a blind fold me saying i had a surprise waiting...( i admit i let out a giggle and it felt good). So he puts me in the car, buckles me, then buckles DS in. We start driving and then we stop. He takes out the stroller and puts ds in it then gets me out of the car. I can here kids and parents I thaught he took me to the mall. Carefully guides me and sits me dow. Guess where he took me....you won't believe it. He Took me to a Play Ground Park. He had sat me down in a swing and started to push me. It was soooooo much fun. And it took him about 3 weeks of draging me to the mailbox everyday...just so i could go down the stairs peacefully enough to pull it off. I still had bad days but checking the mail every day and park became a weekly thing, and then getting to stay in a 5 star hotel(curtosy of the US Military) really helped....DH also did some of the cooking and changed out diet soda is only in our home when company is over, same w/ sweets. I don't know how much of this will help. I hated my DH at the time for making me go to the mailbox every day...But now I love him for it. Just keep checking your mail...And every day take a different path to mail box. Down your drive one day, through your yard the next....then one day walk to the next drive way down....or if you feel up to it to the corner. YOU CAN DO IT....In the words of the FLYlady Marla Ceily: YOU CAN DO ANYTHING IN 15 MIN. I found FLYlady last year and 15min at a time has really helped. It'as a great theory no matter what you use it for. if you want check out her site www.flylady.net it's for people who suffer from CHAOS (Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrom)...People who have to much stuff, Most aimed at Decluttering..but it can't hurt to check it out right.

Best of luck to you. I hope you feel better.

Liz

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Registered: 12-02-2003
In reply to: pbinky
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 4:51pm
Hi. Thank you so very much for your reply, for sharing part of your story and for the info. I appreciate it so very much. I will check out the website you provided. Everything is so confusing and scary. If you ever want to talk, I'll be more than happy to. I'm new, so I don't know what I'm doing exactly. But I do know everyone that replied has been so helpful to me.

Thank you again, take care of yourself & I hope to hear from you again.