I hate roommates...help!

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Registered: 02-05-2003
I hate roommates...help!
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Tue, 12-02-2003 - 11:55pm
Ok, so this weekend, we're having a Jimmy Buffet party. It's supposed to be a FUN time, but this party is turning out to be more of an issue than what it's worth. After the three of us spending 25 bucks EACH on decorations, my one roommate (there's 3 of us)is out of control. She now wants us to make food for the party, as well as alcohol. Mind you that I'm IN THE NEGATIVE! So, she asked me to make a bunch of vegetables (raw) and she's gonna make the dip, but wants me to make some more stuff. AHHHHHHHH. So my question to you, is what else can I do to make something for this God awful party that I don't even wanna go to anymore. Mind you, I can't say no to her, because she'll bitch and pout till she gets her way.

Thanks!

Trix

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Registered: 07-15-2003
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 8:51am
I just wanted to say that I don't particularily like rooommates, either.

Pamela

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 12:38pm
All I can recommend is saying no. You can say it in a nice way. Just say that you don't have the time, energy or money to dod anything more for the party. Tell her that you are in the negative right now, so you have no money to spend, literally. When she bitches, tell her that you just don't have any more to give and you would appreciate her respecting that. But add that you appreciate her enthusiasm so much and are excited about the party.

Since you know her, I'm sure that you're right that she won't give up. I'd recommend repeating what you said about no money at all. Tell her what time you've put in, then leave the room. You can do it very sweetly to avoid conflict.

I believe that you have to be true to yourself first and foremost. If you think you can't do that, then you will find yourself doing things for this woman that you don't want to do. It's that simple.

Good Luck,

MariaC

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 5:42pm

No one can take advantage of you with out your permission hun!


Let her pout away is my feeling.. Just be very Firm that YOU cant afford it and either offer to get what you can afford or just explain that you really just Cant do it.. She will get over it, trust me!

*hugs

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Thu, 12-04-2003 - 1:17am
ok, i just wrote you a long message with tons of decoration suggestions and it got erased when i tried to send it- so this is the short version- for cheep cheesy decs: get crepe paper and twist is gently as you tape it from one side of the wall to another or like spokes from different walls and connecting in the middle with balloons. use colored construction paper for whatever you can think of- write cute things related to your party and hang them around, cut out shapes, cut out spirals and let them hang from the middle. tinsel. for a classier party with wine, make wine charms out of electric/telephone wire or other cheap wire (get at a craft store or call around) and beads. tell your roomate that you want to help with extra cooking or decorating and that you will bargain hunt for cheaper stuff, but you can't afford the $25. what i have learned from insolent roomates is it sometimes you have to put your foot down to protect your interests. it's like a whiny kid, if you keep giving them what they want, they keep whining. good luck and have fun!
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Registered: 12-04-2003
Thu, 12-04-2003 - 9:50am
Hey sweetie! I'm living with a roomate like that. She pouts and bitches when she doesn't get her way, but you know what? Both of you have to be happy and reach some kind of compromise. If you don't put your foot down, she'll step all over you. My roomate stopped being pouty after I told her straight up "No, I can't". She will have to understand, and if she don't, explain to her nicely " Hope you understand and respect my decisions". She'll get over it eventually.

Lillian