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| Fri, 12-05-2003 - 9:22pm |
It seems that I set myself up.....again. I thought one of my family members truly wanted to spend some time with me, but I was wrong. She called this morning wanting to go have dinner together and then maybe do something afterwards. But while we were having dinner, her friend or boyfriend (she says they are just friends) called. We decided to do a little Christmas shopping after dinner, but when she looked at her watch she jumped and said, "wow, I didn't realize it was that late (6:30 pm), I need to get back so that I can go to see (so and so)". I then said, "I thought we were doing something tonight", where she said "we did. I told you when he called that I wanted to go see him, I really miss him". She had seen him this morning when they both left his place together to go to work. This really made me angry and she could tell. So she makes some lame comment about "oh great, now I'm going to make HER feel bad". This is when I said, "don't worry, I'll be dead one of these days, then you won't have to worry about it any more", then I just shook my head and walked over to pay for my things and then we left. By the way...this is my 28 yr old daughter. Which in my opinion, is old enough to be considerate of others.
I am so tired of this. I am constantly pushed over for other people by family members and have been since I was a child. It's like, "oh let's go do something if no one else better comes along, or as long as we get back so that I can spend time with ??? instead of you." I feel like my family just sees me out of duty. I am really not a bad person, nor am I boring, just taken for granted and I'm tired of it. I just really want to tell them all to go off, and they're not worth MY time.
My adult son and his wife, don't bother to call but every couple months or so....not even an e-mail. They live about 4 states away.
And hubby??? Well, he gives me the time of day when he is not over helping out his brother or any other of his family members or friends. Then when we do go anywhere...it's the same thing...a schedule so that he can get back in time to go somewhere else. We work opposite shifts too, so the only time we really have together is on the weekends, which usually has a time limit.
Yeah...I think they can all just kiss whatever
Thanks for listening...I am angry, mad and hurt, all at once. Other than here, I will withdraw from everyone else, which of course is not productive, just protective. Thanks all.
Edited 12/6/2003 10:51:29 PM ET by elapsed

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I'm so sorry this happened.
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CL-ladybug987
I always thought the relationship board was for people dating, for some reason. Maybe I will check it out. Thank you for the suggestion.
I had hoped more people would make some suggestions. Maybe they will yet and misstabbycat and I will be able to develop our own plans. Thanks.
I sometimes get the same treatment, but usually for me, I'll call and see if someone wants to do something, and there all too busy.
Some people are just ignorant, and its really too bad. :)
If you ever want to chat 1 on 1, just e-mail me through my profile.
{{HUGS}}
Heather