frustrated with weight, also insecurity
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| Wed, 12-10-2003 - 8:16am |
Today I am also feeling insecure about my bf. I love him to death and have no reason not to trust him yet I always get so paranoid that he is going to find someone else, that he is cheating on me, that he is bored, whatever. Last night he spent the night at his cousin's house and all night I tossed and turned and imagined him with another girl, or doing drugs (his cousin has recently gotten into using and selling various things.) Now my bf is a wonderful guy and he has never done either of these things...why can't I just relax? After 4 1/2 years of dating you'd think I'd be able to just let go and realize that he loves me and that I can trust him. But you see...it's not that I don't trust him, I don't trust everyone else! And not quite sure how he would handle the temptation if the situation arose. I am a very lucky girl and would not want to lose him. All the girls I know tell me how wonderful my guy is and that just makes me nervous because I think...well he could have any of those girls if he wanted them. And if he did cheat I wouldn't ever know about it. That makes me feel sick. Ugh. Why am I so paranoid? I am a nice, smart, attractive girl, why do I feel like he's going to lose interest in me? Thanks for any words of wisdom. I'm off to the hospital for tests today, I have these chronic horrible headaches so today is D-day I guess, 1 MRI on my brain, one on my neck, (the pain seems to start in my neck), and an appointment with a neurologist. Hopefully someone will be able to tell me somethign! Thanks ladies for everything, you are wonderful.

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If you are losing weight through diet alone, it will be much harder. The main thing is that your body's metabolism slows down when you eat fewer calories. That will make you burn fewer calories. It isn't good for your body.
If you really want to lose weight fast, then you need to make exercise a major part of your life. Even aerobics for 20 minutes three times a week will help a lot. You will keep your metabolism up the rest of the time, even with fewer calories.
For the greatest weight loss, you should exercise for 30-60 minutes a day, six days a week. Running, rowing, bike riding, or aerobics are best. Also do some push-ups every other day. This will build your muscles. The more muscle you have, the more calories you burn, even in your non-exercising time. I like to do push-ups in front of one of my favorite TV shows. It makes it easier and funner.
As for diet, cut out all carbs. That means no sugar, no bread, no pasta, no potatoes. Eat only proteins like fish, poultry, nuts, etc., and veggies. Steam broccoli, cauliflower, carrots, zucchini, etc. No cheese, no butter, no crackers, no fried foods.
If you do that diet with high exercise for two months, you will have major weight loss. To keep it off, make sure you still exercise a few times a week. At least three.
As for your boyfriend, I don't blame you for being nervous that he slept at his cousin's house, since his cousin has gotten into doing and dealing drugs. It is very normal that it would bother you. It would bother me a lot, too. I know what you mean about being nervous you will lose him. Many people do cheat. But some don't. I trust my dh completely. I know that he isn't the cheating type. He never even seems interested in other women. That means a lot to me.
Can you talk to your boyfriend about your fears? Don't accuse him. Just tell him that you know how special he is and you are concerned that other women see that too. Is there something he can do to help your fears? If he knows how much it would hurt you to cheat, that would help you both to know it is a situation you don't want to bring into your relationship. You are as capable of cheating as he is. Talk to him about how much he means to you and that you would never jeapardize your relationship by being intimate with someone else. Tell him how he means so much that you don't even have an interest in other men.
If he feels you respect your relationship and sees how much it means to you, then you can both feel more secure in the relationship.
Hope that helps.
Take Care,
MariaC