Could use a hug (warning:upsetting)

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Could use a hug (warning:upsetting)
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Wed, 12-10-2003 - 1:53pm
i didn't want to post the whole thing here b/c I don't know it is unapropriate.....please don't read if you are particularly upset.

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-ppabortgrf&msg=3270.1&ctx=0

(this is an abbortion loss support board)

Liz

Elizabeth, Wife to Sean 15June01, Mommy to Sean Kevin 2nd 25Aug00, Caetlín Renae 10Mar02 and FaelynneSkye  26Apr07. 

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Registered: 09-04-2003
Wed, 12-10-2003 - 2:11pm
((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Liz,

I have never been in your situation, so I can't understand what you are going through, I can imagine it must be very hard, so I am sending prayers and hugs your way!!!

Hugs

Heather

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Registered: 05-16-2003
Wed, 12-10-2003 - 4:24pm
sending hugs your way.....
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Wed, 12-10-2003 - 5:18pm
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((((((((((((((((((((((((((((LIZ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

and there are a million more where that came from.

I too can not relate I wish I could I have never been thru something like that I have had my sister and friends go thru that and it is a haard choice to make but one that was for them in the best interest of not only themselves but of the child to be.

I remember when I found out that I was pregnant with my son I will be honest the thought crossed my mind alot and I found out late i just like you in the end we kept Jakob he lives with his dad in Arizona but still I can only imagine how hard it is for you and I am so sorry that you have to go thru this and I wont sit here and say that it will get better or hurt less because I can not be the jdge of that I can only hope that in time for you things will get better and the pain will lessen for you and I am sorry but your mother in law should not and I repeat should have not done that with the picture that just is not cool at all maybe she could give a rats you know what about how you are feeling but simple human nature should have guided her and she just should not have done that at all.

Sweetie I wish that I could take the tears and pain away for you but only you can do that in your own time and when you are ready to smile again you will I do not doubt that at all.

sending you tons of hugs love and support.

Erin

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Registered: 11-01-1999
Wed, 12-10-2003 - 8:37pm
I called My MIL about the pic. She said she was sorry, but in her room is an U/S pic (and a pic after they were born, looks like they are sleeping) of the twin girls she had had still born. She said she would move the pic as I told her if she wanted to keep it she could. She even said she buy a new 4 picture frame and put all 4 grankids in it (my 2 and DH's bro's 2). She is gonna give me 3 of the 4 U/S pics as I asked for them. I found a counselor I can see and she suggested finding a nice place to burry the pics (or just one) w/some flowers. She said a few local cemetaries allow people to bury U/S pics of miscaried or still born babies under their trees. I think it's a nice idea....maybe a way i can start to come to terms...and if i really need to I'll I have a physical place to visit my baby girl. well that's all for the moment.

Liz

Elizabeth, Wife to Sean 15June01, Mommy to Sean Kevin 2nd 25Aug00, Caetlín Renae 10Mar02 and FaelynneSkye  26Apr07. 

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Wed, 12-10-2003 - 8:57pm

(((((((((((Liz))))))))))), what a beautiful idea!

 

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CL-ladybug987

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Registered: 07-15-2003
Wed, 12-10-2003 - 10:28pm
((((((Liz))))))

I have never been in your situation, so I will NOT say that I can imagine what you are going through.

I am sending you hugs all the way from Canada. I will be thinking of you and sending out some prayers for you.

Please take care of yourself sweetie.

Pamela

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Wed, 12-10-2003 - 11:31pm

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Sweetie, I can't even begin to imagine the pain you are feeling right now.