Any help? Another bad week

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Registered: 12-02-2003
Any help? Another bad week
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Thu, 12-11-2003 - 8:46am
Hi. Sitting here w/severe ear & eye infection. No dr., no health insur. Eye swollen shut. 4 days now. Counselor appt. today, can't see so can't go. Really need to-she's helping me to get to dr. Ironic? Haven't been out of house since last Friday. Been putting neosporin on eyes, hydrogen peroxide in ears. Could go to emerg. rm. as usual, but can't risk getting sicker w/low defenses & nasty flu. Plus, don't want credit worse then is. Not what I need help with. How can I motivate 18 year old daughter? Graduated h.s. May, merit honor roll, art award etc. Doesn't want to go anywhere, call anyone, go to work, go to college. Not lazy, will cook & clean all day. Get's up & dressed early. Arguing w/her & husband while sick. He won't get involved w/her life. Won't help motivate her. Won't give her ride anywhere. What can I do? It's hard enough being depressed & sick & having to deal w/those 2. I have to worry @my problems & my 16 year old daughter. She's motivated. She wants to work etc. If I leave alone, she could stay vegetated in this house until she's 30+. It's ok w/her & husband. I hate to argue w/them, God forbid anything happen to me or one of them after an argument. Really sick & tired & worried. Any help? Thanks.
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Registered: 07-15-2003
Thu, 12-11-2003 - 9:08am
Wow, you have your hands full!

I can be of much help with the medical stuff, I am in Canada and it's different here.

I just wanted to send you some hugs.

Pamela

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Registered: 12-02-2003
Thu, 12-11-2003 - 11:00am
Hi Pamela. Thank you for your quick reply & for the hugs. I appreciate it. Thank you & hugs back to you.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 12-11-2003 - 11:09am
Hellos,

First all, I hope your eye gets better. I hope you can find a way to the doctor. Can you ask a neighbor? I just asked mine for some coke, i am sick, and she provided. You really never know.

Definitely keep in touch with dr about problem adn I hope it gets better quick. This is a tough tough year for infections. This one has walloped me. So i know how it goes. And being sick and depressed around holidays makes it worse.

I do have a thought on your daughter. I am gathering from the post that you have/are suffering from depression. Is it possible, with this significant change in her life, that she is as well. It runs in families. My mother had it and now I do. There's really nothing wrong with it. Some families live with diabetes. other problems. In my family, it's depression. Maybe drag her along to the doctor with you. As long as she understands, that she's completely predisposed to it and that it's not her fault.

I am so sick, I hope this helps. Are you on meds in therapy for your depression. I am new to the board so a bit clueless.

Kelly

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Registered: 12-02-2003
Thu, 12-11-2003 - 11:33am
Hi. Thank you for your reply & help. I appreciate it very much. When I went to my 1st counselor, she said the same thing @my oldest daughter & my husband-that they might be depressed. She tested both of them for depression & ADD (which she thought they might also have).They both came up negative for both. No, I am not on any meds. My new counselor (as well as my old one) says I seriously need anti-depressants, but it's hard with no money, no insurance, etc. I have been suffering from depression for 9 years now. I hope you feel better too. I could & should go to the emergency room for my infections, but I don't want to catch anything else there. I'm kind of new to the board too, (@1wk)and I know how it feels trying to be on here sick, but it helps so much. I've dragged myself out here all week, mostly trying to find an organization that can help me get health care. Thank you again for your reply. Get better.

Take care of yourself,

Patti