Miscarrage knightmare

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Registered: 12-14-2003
Miscarrage knightmare
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Sun, 12-14-2003 - 9:31pm
We are a married couple who where trying for a baby and we finaly acheived it and my darling wife kelly told me she was finaly pregnant i was so happy and couldn't wait for the nine months to be over but unfortunatly after 5 weeks the baby stopped growing and we didn't find out until she was 10 weeks epregnant and kelly miscarraged and we where both gutted to the highist order kelly assed the baby last WEDNESDAY and now she is suffering we won't sleep co's she keeps having a knightmare that she in the delivery suit giving birth and when she comes out shes dead kelly ad me now i know that she going through this are very upset and we havn't a clue what to do so if anyone has any advice to help us deal with this please let us know your thoughts
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 12-15-2003 - 12:21am

I don't really have any advice, but I do know how painful a miscarriage is. I haven't had one myself, but my sister was pregnant a few years ago, and we were all so excited. I had plans to be more involved than I was when my niece was born, and my sister and I had gotten closer. Then one day she was coming over to go shopping, and when she arrived, the look on her face was as if she was dying. She was bleeding, and she was scared, and she knew she was losing it. She hugged me and cried, and that right there says a lot since she is not a huggy person..I drove her to her doctor's and it was just so awful..


I wish you two the best right now...


Jenn









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Registered: 12-14-2003
Mon, 12-15-2003 - 2:17pm
hi there thanks for replying it means a lot to know someone else is thinking of us take care mate
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Registered: 11-16-2003
Mon, 12-15-2003 - 4:27pm
There isn't much that I can say but that you and your wife are in my prayers. I have not had to deal with miscarriage first hand, however, my sister has had three over the past three years and it has very disheartening for her and her husband. I could only imagine what she was going through, but she has a great support system surrounding her and that helps. I hope that you find success in the future and knowing that this is a difficult time, I hope that you find comfort in us here.


Your in my thoughts and prayers,


Jaime

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Registered: 05-01-2003
Tue, 12-16-2003 - 12:31am
I have been through this personally. It is a very hard thing to go through. In my case the pregnancy was "unviable" at 6 weeks and I didn't start to miscarry until the 12th week. I still think about it five years later (wow five years already) and I still wonder what happened and why. It is going to take a while to get over the pain and you never really will completely. If you choose to have another child I would say to wait atleast until her body has recupperated and she feels that she can handle going through a pregnancy. It will be even more stressfull because you will be forever wondering if the pregnancy is still "viable" or not. I feel for you and would never wish this type of thing on my worst enemy.

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Registered: 12-14-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 9:25am
thankyou very much for your concern it nice to no somesody cares

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Registered: 11-17-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 10:42am

Hi b4nger27,


I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

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