For the first time, bad thoughts (trigs)

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For the first time, bad thoughts (trigs)
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Tue, 12-16-2003 - 3:31am
Okay in the never ending saga of the "bad neighbor."

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Tue, 12-16-2003 - 4:37am
Trac,

I don't post often but I read this board frequently and get much support from it. There is a wonderful core group of women here whose posts I always look for and whose support and advice to others always helps me; and you are one of them. I wish I knew what to say here to help you feel better. At one of the worst times in my life, I had those thoughts too, and they scared me badly. But since that time, I've had so many times of contentment and happiness and love (in between bouts of depression, of course :) that I would have missed if I hadn't been here! I'm sure you will come through this and feel the goodness in life again one of these days. Please take care of yourself and keep seeing your therapist, and above all remember that your are treasured by those who know you, even if only over the internet.

Kassie (also a night shift worker, on my night off, up and not able to sleep at 3am :)

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Tue, 12-16-2003 - 8:55am
Trac

So you can go to your landlord and tell them that your dog doesn't weigh 30 pounds. AND, I am assuming that the landlords haven't had complaints about you before? I think your landlord should stick up for you a bit since you have been there alot longer than the other person.

Anyway, please take care.

Pamela

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Tue, 12-16-2003 - 9:25am

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((TRAC))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))


Sweetie, I wish I knew how to fix this for you.

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Registered: 05-16-2003
Tue, 12-16-2003 - 9:30am
i think you should file a formal compliant about him than. tell your landlord that you dog is not huge and does not weigh over 30 lbs. tell him you have been a good resident/renter for how long and nothing has changed. that this neighbor is being unreasonable. that you are not being overly loud. and if the neighbor shows up again call the cops. you do not have to be terrorized in your own home by some freak. hang in there sweetie. it will get better (it can't get worse, right?) sorry, trying to be humorous. sending hugs your way.

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Tue, 12-16-2003 - 11:48am
Oh trac...


I'm so sorry for all of this. I know what unbelievable stress you're in right now, as I'm right there with you. There's not a lot to say, but just know I am here for you! I'd take some sort of documented proof that the dog is less than 30 pounds. That would eliminate some of your problems. This guy has a stick up his ass for you! I hate him! I do have to say that he is worse than having to listen to the old man having sex all the time. And Ithought that was bad! Well, it was, in it's own little perverted way. Anywhoo...I'm so sorry, but like I said, any sort of documented proof will do you justice. If not...go to the police!

Trix

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Tue, 12-16-2003 - 4:50pm

OK hun,, We need to "TALK" but that comes later..


RIght now i have some Christmas suggestions for you..


For your secret santa depending on how much you are to spend you canShaking Gift 1. get him a gift certificate from a local deli or sandwich place.. even if they dont normally do it; if you explained what you wanted to do .. maybe they would Hand write something that entitles the bearer to ONE WELL MADE SANDWICH hehe.. and tie it with a ribbon to a jar of dill pickles or something.. The other suggestion is Buy the book the Old Man and the Sea and give him a gift certificate to Long John Silvers hehehe or some kind of fish place *giggle


I was also thinking about Steph and a christmas gift for her... She seems to want to be around you more then anything so how about giving her the "gift of Time" ? Unwrapped GiftBuy an inexpensive watch thats really funky or cute and put a card with it that says you will spend a day with her... Pick a date right away that works for you and then Make it special.. get up early and take her out right away! if you get out of the house to start you wont get involved in other stuff... Go for a walk or to a museum first.. then head out for a cheap lunch or better yet buy sandwiches and come back and Picnic on your bed.. just you and her... listen to her stories,, plan some things to do in the coming year.. talk about dreams... Then rent a good movie and watch it together so the WHOLE day is hers... no computer no phone no Micheal hehe ... just an idea


PLEASE Email me or IM me or neomail me sooon ok?


*hugs             

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Tue, 12-16-2003 - 6:00pm
((((((Trac)))))) scary, scary cliff to look over. The thoughts themselves are indeed terrifying.

I am myself not doing too well. I thought a big part of my depression was being unemployed. And now that I have a job, I would think I could be better. But I am not. *sigh* Please pray for my meds to work.

I will pray for all of you, because you are just one awesome lady who is important to me.

Please know that I would be there in a heart beat of you needed me.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.

Take care,

Lisa

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Registered: 10-02-2003
Tue, 12-16-2003 - 7:09pm
Hey Trac~

I am so sorry for your situation. I would go to the landlord and show him your dogs. A friend of mine had to give a pic of her dog to landlord and prove her wt. I hope it all works out. I would fight for your rights and let the landlord know what a burden it has been to have him as a neighbor. I don't know what to tell you about work. It sounds like alot has been put on you there. Is there anyone you can go to and see if you can get an assistant or anyone to help with some things that someone else can do and you just do what only you can do? Maybe this isn't a possibility. It must be hard in your type of work. It is alot of responsilbilty and stress. I really wish you all the best. ((((HUGS)))) and hang in there!

Tina~

 
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 2:21am
Trac, I'm sorry you're dealing with so much stress, with the dogs and all those other issues...and I know how scary it is to have those bad thoughts for the first time. I'm glad that you're not considering acting on them, though...your family, and your "online family," all need and want you around!

I hope things get sorted out with your landlord...and that better days will come soon,

Rose