children with depression

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Registered: 04-27-2003
children with depression
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Wed, 12-17-2003 - 11:19pm
Hi all, I post on other boards, but this is my first time here. I need advice. My 11 yr. old son is being treated for depression. Medication is zoloft 100mg. 1xday. I am doing everything possible to help him. My husband, however, is one of Jesse's biggest problems. He verbally abuses both of us, almost daily. I used to think women who stayed married to someone like that should just leave. Easier said than done. I understand that now. We have no place to go. Husband thinks I'm overreacting. Jesse is not depressed. All kids want to die at that age. It's part of growing up. He wants me to stop taking him to quacks who don't know what they're doing. And he wants him taken off that medication.

I will not bury my son. He will continue to heal through physciatric counceling and medication. My question is this. Is there some legal way that I can have sole responsibility for making sure that Jesse continue his medication. I think what I want to do is take away my husbands right to make any decisions regarding Jesse being treated for depression.

I know that once I do it, my marriage will end, and the lousy life we have now will get worse. Jesse tells me all the time that he wishes daddy was dead, and at the same time, he knows that if we leave he won't have him, and that hurts him so much. I mean, like if he makes a mistake he calls him stupid. or if he breaks something by accident, jesse hides from him. He won't hit him, but he belittles him so much, and he keeps yelling for like hours after.

I'm sorry, I didn't mean for this to get long. If any one can answer my question, I would be most grateful.

jeannieb

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 11:52pm

Hugs! I'm so sorry you're going through all this, and yes, I DO understand how hard it is to leave an abusive situation. When the abuse is "only" verbal, the damage is just as real but it can be harder to recognize and stop.


I think you should visit the Dealing with Domestic Abuse board and read all the information on the homepage (link at the top of that board.)

Ruth, Single Mom to

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 11:52pm

Welcome to the board.