does it ever end?

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Registered: 07-09-2003
does it ever end?
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 1:14am
hey I just need to vent all my problems and hoping it will help me get through the holidays. I am only 22 and married with both of us trying to get through school. The past week just got bad but I think it is b/c of christmas around the corner. I live to make others happy. We have been having financial problems for a yr. and the end is not close at all. I just need reassurance that my family will not be mad I could not buy everyone a gift this yr. also that we will make it without getting sent to the bill collectors before it is all over. On top of all this I have to work christmas and the whole family like just fell apart this yr. I work at Children's hospital and I feel fine there but as soon as I leave it gets ugly. I don't think I have had a full 8 hrs of sleep this week combined. Okay I have said enough thanks for listening.
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Registered: 07-15-2003
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 8:57am
(((Squirmey)))

Are you on any medications? Do you see a therapist? Both of these things help if you can afford it.

I think your family will understand that you can't buy everyone a gift. Christmas isn't supposed to be about getting, it's supposed to be about giving.

Take care

Pamela

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:16am

(((((((Squirmey))))))),


Yes, it sounds like things have piled up a bit with the holidays coming.

 

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CL-ladybug987

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:44am



Things will work themselves out and in the end it will be okay, it will not happen over nihgt but it will happen just dont give in or give up.

Your family should understand about the gifts christmas is not about gift giving it is about celebrating good friends and family that is what gets me so upset about this holiday so many people think it is only about gifts and so many people get upset if they do not get one the thing about it is your family should just be happy to spend time with you and others.

I am so sorry if I sound a little harsh about the holidays I am not a big christmas person it is to stressful for me I believe it is for the kids and the adults should just share in the magic of watching a child up up his present and the look in their eyes it is awesome dont worry about the gifts if they know your situation they should understand.

Erin

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Registered: 11-16-2003
Fri, 12-19-2003 - 5:31pm
(((((((((((((((((Squirmey)))))))))))))))))

I'm glad that you decided to post here. I can understand how you are feeling. It is very difficult being married at a young age and going to school as well. It can be very draining on you. I was married at 19 and am now 25. Besides having the stress of marriage I also had the stress and responsibilities of being a mother. In the beginning we didn't have much financially and it was very difficult for me to handle. I thought that I just couldn't cope but now know that I was in a state of depression. These periods came into my life off and on for the past six years, but I finally decided that I needed to do something about it. The first step was acknowledging it as depression then I spoke with my doctor. I now see a therapist and am on meds to help me with the sadness and anxiety.

As far as the gifts go, your family should understand about your situation and Christmas is a time of sharing, not gift giving. There will be plenty of times in the future where you can buy everyone gifts. Please hang in there. All of the ladies here on the board care about you and are here to listen. I hope you have better days.

P.S. Be proud of yourself for going to school and working too. It is a major accomplishment!


Sending lots of hugs your way,


Jaime