Bummed Out

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Bummed Out
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Sat, 12-27-2003 - 12:06am

Well, I thought I was in an okay frame of mind to deal with the holidays.

 

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CL-ladybug987

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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: ladybug987
Sat, 12-27-2003 - 2:20pm

Hi hun!


I understand how disappointed you must be not to get to talk to your grandchildren. I know I can hear it in my Mom's voice when my son is not in the mood to chat (he is 12) sometimes when she calls.


I had an idea though hun... 2 of them actually.. one is why dont you call them once in awhile? If long distance cost is an issue there are lots of phone card deals you can get that are pretty cheap. You could even suggest phone cards as a birthday or mothersday gift.

*hugs             

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Registered: 07-18-2007
In reply to: ladybug987
Sat, 12-27-2003 - 3:38pm

Thanks so much, Caly!

 

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CL-ladybug987

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Registered: 10-02-2003
In reply to: ladybug987
Sat, 12-27-2003 - 4:54pm
(((((((HUGS))))) I am so sorry to hear that you missed their call several times. That I understand how disappointing that must have been. I hate that I can't get any calls either when I am on the computer. 5,7 and 9 are good ages to hold conversations with your grandchildren. I would keep expressing to your xDIL that you really want that connection with the grandchildren and to have then call more frequently. I wouldn't give up asking to hear from them more. They are your grandkids too, not just the other grandmothers. I can understand how that would make you jealous of the other GM living so close and you being so far away. Maybe you could send them "thinking of you" cards once in awhile to let them know you are thinking of them and that they are in your heart. That is great that you will be seeing them at the end of January. I know that must seem far away when you are excited to see them, but that time will be here before you know it.

My BF's mom lives in Alabama and we live in Maryland and she only gets to see her grandson twice a year too. It is very hard on her. This Christmas my BF's son went to Florida to be with his mother and my BF's mom came to Maryland to visit for the holidays and she didn't get to see her GS or talk to him this x-mas either, so I know she knows what you are going through and me seeing her disappointment makes me understand how you feel. I know I am probably not much help, but I wanted you to know I care and I wish you all the best. I hope your visit with your grandchildren in January is a wonderful one with lots of good memories to treasure.

Blessings to you

Tina~

 
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Registered: 07-18-2007
In reply to: ladybug987
Sat, 12-27-2003 - 10:52pm

Thanks, (((((((Tina))))))), for your understanding.

 

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CL-ladybug987

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Registered: 08-29-2003
In reply to: ladybug987
Sun, 12-28-2003 - 1:06am
Have you considered trying the 10 10 9 8 7 phone thingy? You dial 10 10 9 8 7 1 areacode telephone number. It is only 39cents to connect and then 3 cents a minute after. A 20 minute call costs about 99 cents. You could set your timer to the amount of time/money you are able to spend. Call them. I use it to call my Grandsons and son. I call about twice a month and it's not a high bill. You don't have to join anything or there are no additional costs. By dialing the numbers ahead of the phone number, gives you access to their lines. You may get a seperate piece of paper with your normal phone bill with your calls listed. It really is very very simple and a God send to us, since our calls are out of the country. Don't wait...make it happen.
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Registered: 07-18-2007
In reply to: ladybug987
Sun, 12-28-2003 - 1:49pm

Thanks, (((((((Elapsed))))))), for your suggestion.

 

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CL-ladybug987

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: ladybug987
Sun, 12-28-2003 - 10:45pm
I'm sorry you're feeling down...you have given me so much support over the past few months, and I would love to return some of that help and caring to you. It must be very hard not to get to see your grandchildren as often as you like.

Unfortunately, I think over the past several years, I was guilty of doing the same thing that your grandchildren are...being too busy to talk to my grandmother, not spending much time with her (well, we only got to see her once a year, though), even though I did love her and enjoyed the time we did have together.

She passed away about two years ago, I think, and I often remember her and wish I could tell her how much I loved her. I'm sorry that this has gotten off track of your post, and I don't mean to depress you even more. I just wanted to say that I sympathize with what you are going through...I wish I had some suggestions...but hopefully your grandchildren will realize that making time for you is really important.

I do hope you are feeling a bit better now...you have lots of friends online you could talk to, although I know that is not the same as talking to your grandchildren.

Rose