how do you 'be brave'?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2003
how do you 'be brave'?
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Wed, 12-31-2003 - 6:43pm
i don't know how.. i'm the type that needs to be held when i'm sad, patted, told that everything will be okay

my friend that's there for me, we're in the middle of a fight and today i feel so sad, i want him to make it all better again but i can't just go to him, he's mad at me right now

i decided yesterday, due to some health issues i found out about myself, that i would be braver from now on, no more pity parties, i'd stand up on my own feet and take care of them.. but i feel so sad and alone today, i don't want to be brave, i want to cry and have him tell me it will be alright again

how do i? how can i learn to not need someone else when i'm at a low point?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2003
Wed, 12-31-2003 - 7:14pm
Hi AmberScotch,

I do not think that there is any way that we can avoid the feeling for the need for others when we are sad. I believe that is why we all post here, we want someone to hear us and tell us that things will be better. Lost in our depression we lose the ability to see things in a better light. Here others see and sometimes hear that which we wish to receive help with. Learning to help ourselves is hard but if you are, determine enough you can lean to do things on your own. Just remember that here on this board you will always find someone that will listen and at least send you a cyber hug to two.

Warm Regards

RainydaysArgon