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| Wed, 12-31-2003 - 8:22pm |
Hi all, it's been about a year since I was here - thanks to all I've been on Wellbutrin & Lexapro. It's helped tremendously with my head and my overall outlook on life. (Like it's worth living)
But, previous to dep meds my libido was low (I'm 47 and gyn said that was normal, body no longer making babies so you don't get as horny as often like in your 20's). 1st dep med was Zoloft - that put me to sleep and turned the sex drive off. (And I gained 10 pounds in 2 months) DH got upset with with my lack of enthusiam and slow sexual startup. I had a friend on wellbutrin and it helped her lose weight and made her frisky so I thought it was worth a shot - doc tried it. In the beginnig I lost 5 pounds but have since gained it back. My sex drive is still nil and am having a BIG problem with orgasm. (It just doesn't happen - no matter what, well maybe every 3 months or so) -- DH is not a happy camper. Basically I could care less about sex but realize DH is a man so it's important to him. ( I do participate just don't have the big O). DH says - off the meds. He thinks I only took it to lose weight. (He just doesn't get the depression part)
help?
But, previous to dep meds my libido was low (I'm 47 and gyn said that was normal, body no longer making babies so you don't get as horny as often like in your 20's). 1st dep med was Zoloft - that put me to sleep and turned the sex drive off. (And I gained 10 pounds in 2 months) DH got upset with with my lack of enthusiam and slow sexual startup. I had a friend on wellbutrin and it helped her lose weight and made her frisky so I thought it was worth a shot - doc tried it. In the beginnig I lost 5 pounds but have since gained it back. My sex drive is still nil and am having a BIG problem with orgasm. (It just doesn't happen - no matter what, well maybe every 3 months or so) -- DH is not a happy camper. Basically I could care less about sex but realize DH is a man so it's important to him. ( I do participate just don't have the big O). DH says - off the meds. He thinks I only took it to lose weight. (He just doesn't get the depression part)
help?

Hi hun!
I wish I had an answer for you but I dont
I do know that for a healthy sexual relationship, it needs to be about intimacy not the big 0 and your dh needs to be more understanding too.
Perhaps joint counseling may help?
*hugs
I could be a feminazi today and say how your husband is a donkey for thinking you are taking depression medicine only for weightloss but I know that is both unproductive and unpractical and will probably get you to hate me.
I have to admit I have no idea where you're coming from since I'm kinda only college age but I have some advice for some libido enhancing. Not that this is the same thing but when I went on birth control my libido went to zilch so my bf got us some sex toys and personally wrote some erotica to stimulate me mentally before he stimulated me physically. It may not work for you but it sure worked for me. I also here there's medication now for women that is almost the equivalent of viagra---have you asked your doctor about it? Finally---this is sort of a classified question so I understand if you don't wanna answer it but does your husband only get satisfaction through one method? There's errr....some very liberal ways to errr....getting a man to be orgasmed and satisfied. Again check these out at sex stores online or something. Anyway I do agree with themadhugger that your well being comes before your sex life butI also believe in excitement and variety. *blushing madly now* GOod luck!
You need to advocate for yourself. Talk to your GYN or find a new one. Talk to your Psychiatrist and try to find a better drug comb. I am 36 and have always had a low sex drive. My Gyn just blames it on hormones (still breastfeeding). But, she only nurses once a day or so, not enough for that. I recently started Lexapro for depression and anxiety. My sex drive happily is improving, so for me that might work. I also understand your husband to an extent. They think of sex differently than women do. It is an important part of marriage/life for them. That said, he also HAS to come to grips with the depression. Depression is a serious topic, and your sex drive can be the first thing you loose when depressed.
So please, make sure you deal with the depression first!! Then the sex drive may naturally increase. DH's pressure for sex is probably just making it worse. Adding to you feeling depressed, thus lowering your sex drive. Quite a vicious cycle.
Good luck and make yourself well first!
Jacqueline mom of Talia Rhiannon (5yo) and Ellowyn Nerys (02/07/02)