cheers to a better 2004 for all

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Registered: 03-30-2003
cheers to a better 2004 for all
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Thu, 01-01-2004 - 11:17pm
well, i assume that lots of us have had a tough time this past year given that we are on this board. so, i wish everyone a happy and healthy 2004. may it be a very happy year for all of us!

i had my first i'm-depressed-don't-know-why cry today. :) i guess them new year isn't perfect over night. i was having what am i going to be when i grow up i need a job crisis, as well as i wish i had more friends, and i was feeling a little unloved by my boyfriend (granted that he has still not told me he loves me, you can understand why!) but i called him and went over and he made me feel better. i know how to fix the job and friends thing, and i am on top of that. but can we discuss the boy thing for a moment? :)

this guy i have been dating for 4 and 1/2 months now is great and shows me in every other way how much he loves me- the way he talks to me, the things he does (little and big), and even the way he hugs me. but he is 34 and has had his own space for a while and thought he had some sort of problem that he couldn't feel strongly for someone- his longest relationship was 9 months. he has given me every indication (said it and showed it) that this was not what he wanted and even told me that i was the first girl he saw a future with. i know how serious he is, but do you think there is a time limit at which point i should worry that he hasn't said the particular words "i love you" ? thanks for listening!

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 01-01-2004 - 11:45pm

{{{{{{Voguegirl15}}}}}}} I wish a happy and healthy new year for you as well!!!!

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 10:15am


I wanted to start by thanking you for the make up tips and all that wonderful stuff for new years eve.

Secfond I dont think that there is a time stamp on how long or short it should be before those three words are said, when I was with my ex he said it first ya I had the butterflies and cared for him with everything that I had in me but I wasnt in love with him when he said he was in love with me I told him that and I also told him that I didnt want to say it just because he said it and that when I said it to him I wanted it to come from deep within my soul he understood and was actually happy that I had waited and yes I did fall deeply in love with him and we had a beautiful little boy together who is now 5 and my light and reason for living we baught a house together and then broke up but he and I were not meant to be thats how I look at it....

But I wouldnt worry too much on when he says he loves you just as long as he means it with all he has inside of him when he says it he may tell you tomorrow just be happy in the moment with him enjoy each and every second you are with him and when the time is right it will happen.

take care,

Erin

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 1:30pm
thank you foggy! thank you erin! i really needed those sweet responses, they made me feel so much better! you guys are absolutely right, and said the just right things to make me smile and know everything will be fine. thanks!!!
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Registered: 07-18-2007
Fri, 01-02-2004 - 1:48pm

Hi, ((((((((Voguegirl)))))))))!

 

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