Room for one more? Possible triggers

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Room for one more? Possible triggers
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Mon, 01-05-2004 - 4:23pm
Hey! I found this board & I hope you don't mind me posting, things have been rather rough for me lately. I'll give you a little background on me, I'm 23, I've been married for 3 yrs, we've been together for 4, I have daughter that turned 6 yesterday, a son that'll turn 2 on the 14th, & a step-daughter that will be 4 in Feb. We didn't know about my step-daughter until the night before she was born & since then it's been a rollercoaster. We thought that the court thing was done with in Oct, but I got a call from the lawyer today & hubby's ex & her mom went to the lawyer's office & tore up the signed court order & refused to sing anything. His ex is 25, lives at home, & lets her mom control when hubby sees step-daughter & I'm fed up with it. My husband & I have had a really rough year, I started talking to an ex, thinking that I'd leave hubby & all my problems would be solved, well, then I came back t reality & since then, I've been really working on our marriage, the issues with me, & I'm now taking paxil & it's helpjg a lot. I haven't saw my counselor is 4 weeks, so I'm glad that I have an appt on Wed, I sure need it. Well, that's a little about me. I look forward to posting with you all!
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Registered: 07-15-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 4:28pm
Welcome!

There's always room for one more, girl!

I am glad to hear that you are on meds (I am on Paxil too) and that you are seeing a therapist.

I just wanted to welcome you.

Take care

Pamela

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 4:38pm
Thanks! I'm so glad that I found a group of people who are dealing with some of the same issues as I am. Paxil has helped me considerably & so has my counselor.
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 4:49pm


Welcome to the board, I hope that you will find all the support that you need here the ladies are awesome here and I am sure you will agree after posting here a bit.


Well you seem to be having a bit going on in your life right now, I know how hard it can be dealing with ex's I have my own to deal with or shall I say not to deal with we hardly speak I talk to his wife more than I speak with him, so I guess I dont have it so bad but at times it is not always that easy with him he has cuatody of our son so he pulls the strings and at times I am the puppet.

I get very touchy when it comes to in laws how they use kids against their parents that really aggrivates me and I think that it is uncalled for because in the end it is the kids that suffer not the adults so the ex mother in law needs to butt out and get a life, sorry for being so blunt.

I do hope that things get better for you in time I am sure they will we are only given as much as we can handle.

take care, Erin

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 5:31pm
Thanks Erin! We have 2 exes that we deal with, my daughter's father just came back into her life after pulling a disappearing act for 3 yrs. Jeff's ex isn't that bad to deal with, it's her mom who is a pain. Actually to our face they are very nice & act like they want to work everything out, but then behind our back they go do things & play games & frankly, I've lost my patience now.
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 6:15pm

Welcome to the board!!!!!


We always have room for one more.

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 7:27pm

Bouncy 3Welcome!! Always room for One or Many! Bouncy 2





Glad you found us hun and thanks for the intro! Sounds like you are doing a great job of working on things

*hugs             

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 7:36pm
Thanks!!!! It really has been stressful lately & then with everything else, I've been very cranky & snappy. I've only saw therapist 5 times & I have may issues to get over starting with my childhood, my mom was/is a meth addict, my dad was a drunk who beat her every night, then I was gang raped when I was 11, then became rather friendly with the guys, was raped again before I was 15, then met my daughter's father who treated me like crap at 16, got pregnant at 16, had her at 17, raped again at 17, left Taylor's dad at 18, got into another horrible relationship, then met my hubby at 19 & that's only half of it, so I'll be seeing her for quite a while. I lost all self-esteem, became pretty much self-destructive, but now I'm fighting it all & I think I'm doing pretty good with dealing with my demons.
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Registered: 01-05-2004
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 7:37pm
You are too cute Caly, thanks for the smile!!!!!