Need advice: love and depression
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| Thu, 01-08-2004 - 11:37pm |
I have not been on here for a while (a couple of months) because things have been pretty good for me. The medication (Effexor) is finally working and I haven't been feeling depressed or anything like that.
But recently, I broke up with the guy I was seeing because he is not ready to commit to me the way I want. I really love and I know he loves me and I am still hopeful for the future. But the problem is that right now, I am having such a difficult time coping. I am really scared that I am "crashing" because I am so sad over the situation with this guy. But I don't want to tell him or my friends because I am tired of being seen as this emotionally weak person. And I don't want him to feel guilty for not being ready. Also, I don't want my friends, him included, to think that they can't say what they think or feel to me, especially if it is negative stuff.
So all this to say that I am having a really hard time coping; I don't want to go to work; yesterday, I went to the store, and felt very anxious, like I did before I got better. The only place I really feel safe and ok, is in my bedroom at home. I have been doing some stuff in the evening (not much though), not staying at home alone, but the day time is just easiest to stay at home...
Any advice would be welcomed!!! and I haven't change the medication, or changed anything significant, except my New Years Resolution to stop drinking pop with caffeine, succeeding so far!!!
Dannie

It sounds like the normal grieving process, to me, hon. When you end a relationship it takes time to feel like your old self again, whether you suffer from depression on a normal basis or not..
Hang in there..
Jenn
Hi Dannie -
I have to agree with Jenn.
I have to agree with Jenn and Jennifer it does sound like the normal grieving process.
When a relationship is over it is hard at first to go back to your old self again, when in a relationship you tend to give so much of yourself to the other person, and in return they give themselves to you. When said relationship is over you almost feel like a part of you is missing but in fact it is the part of the person that was given to you by them and when they leave they take tht part back which is that empty feeling, Did I make any sence today is a very off day for me so sorry if I tend to go off course or ramble on..........
Okay so anyways, maybe try to write in a journal how you feel all of your emotions jjst get them out onto paper that way they are no longer in you and that way they are released from your body, let yourslef grieve hun it is the only way that you are going to heal and be able tomove on with your life, try to start up a new hobbie or work out do some yoga that will relax your mind and body.
I hope that a little of what I said was helpful.
Feel better hun
Erin