New to board...Need help with brother...
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| Fri, 01-09-2004 - 10:48am |
He had a good job, which he quit a couple months ago, which in turn, has made his depression worse, because the bank is foreclosing on his house, etc., etc. He makes bad decisions and acts before he thinks.
A few years ago, as I was trying to console him one night about his depression and try to talk him into getting help, he made homicidal comments about our sister (they were in a fight at the time and not speaking). He only said this to me and I've never told my sister, as they are getting along now.
Anyway, he called both my sister and I last night and made several comments about making his ex-wife "pay", and he even told my sister that he has letters written to his children explaining it all to them. My husband thinks he's just all talk, as he's threatened all of this before, but it seems to be excalating and I'm scared. I just don't know what to do. If I have him committed to a hospital, then I'll forever be afraid for myself and my family, because I know he would never forgive me for that. It seems there is no easy answer here. Any advice you all could give me would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Hmmm...I don't really know what to tell you. Have you thought of mentioning what he said about his ex to his ex? I don't know what your relationship is with her.
Does your brother take any anti-depressant medications? Does he see a therapist? These are both really important when dealing with depression. I guess another important question for me to ask is does he awknowledge his depession?
Anyway, I wish you luck.
Pamela
Welcome to the board!
One thing I have learned in my time at the board and in battling depression, is that MEN handle and react to depression VERY differently then we do.
I would suggest you start by heading over to this link Men with Depression
http://www.maledepression.com/
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