Advice Please!

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Advice Please!
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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 5:39pm
Okay ladies

I talked to my friend Lisa who moved away to Winnipeg, the capital of my province. Now when she lived here and knew she was moving, we were talking about me moving there. We were IM-ing today and she asked me if I was still thinking of it.

So here is the situation. My friend Lisa, her family, two of my couseins, my other friend Crystal, my dad's girlfriends kids, my aunt all live in this city; Winnipeg. My mom would be two hours away, which is closer than she is now.

I lived in a city, about half the size of Winnipeg and I absolutely hated it. I was born and raised on a farm and I don't do cities well. So I ended up moving back to the town by the farm where I grew up. Even living in this tiny town, I am not happy. I want to live out on the farm where I can be free. I know, it's weird.

The reason I would move would be to take my Bachelor of Social Work. If it weren't for school, I wouldn't even think of it. But I do want to at least try to do it. I don't want to look back and think "why didn't I do that?" You know?

Some things that make me not want to go are of course that my dad, my farm, and my sister and my nephew that I ADORE are here. I have a great job, and it took me a long time to get it. And this past May I consolodated my car payment, my Sears bill, and my credit card bill. So now I have a big consolodation loan to pay off and I don't think I'd be able to get a student loan. I also don't know how I would make it; trying to pay of my loan AND going to school. I am the kind of person who has to put all my being into school. I wouldn't be able to do work and go to school. I guess maybe going part time would be an option. But I wouldn't want to be in the city more than I need to.

There is this thing you can do through the high school here. It's called Campus Manitoba. You can hook up with classes in Winnipeg over the Internet. But I don't really want to do it that way. I want to experience University. I want to make friends, maybe meet a guy, ya know?

Any words of wisdom ladies??

Pamela

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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 6:17pm

((((Pam)))))


Sweetie, I can understand how you feel about city-life.

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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 6:28pm
well sweetie....I honestly think that it seems as though your mind has been made up already! I don't know. I'm all about trying new things and experiencing new challenges in life. If you can truely afford it, and can do it, I say go for it. I also agree with Traci though...if you can't make up your mind quite yet, why not write down the pro's and con's of the "new" life?? Then post them here, and we'll give you our imput on what we think. Hope this helps, and keep us posted!

Trix

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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 9:20pm
I loved your thread....I will be graduating in May with my Bachelors in Social Work and I live on a mini farm in a very rural area....lol. Maybe I can be of some assistance to you.

What do you want to do with your social work degree? You might want to check around in your area and see what is available and if a degree is even necessary to obtain a position in the job. Also the first couple of years of college are general education courses, as you may already know. You may not need to be on a campus until you start working the degree program set up by the Social Work Department in the college of your choice. A friend of mine came up to Missouri from Oklahoma just to attend this university because of it's degree program in social work. Prior to that she was able to complete her general ed. courses at her local community college.

Would you be comfortable taking an introductory course in social work to be sure if it's what you are really wanting, while you are still working the "great job" you have now? I understand that students on an average, change their major 3 times before completing their degree. I tried several introductory courses, before settling with my decision.

My advice is: take the courses on line first, part-time while you are working. Then if it's still what you want, you will automatically make the changes that need to be made to fulfill the desire, that you will feel. Perhaps a visit to Winnipeg on occasion is more what you would enjoy, rather than living there.

I feel that is a person does not have a passion for their life, they will keep searching and searching until they fulfill that passion.

Keep in touch and let us know what you decide, if you do.

BTW my son lives in Ottawa, and came from a very rural town. He loves it there, but his sister.........small town girl....LOL.

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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 9:21pm

Hun,


Some experiences only happen once in a lifetime and I think in the years to come you would regret more NOT having BEEN to a University and gotten to experience it first hand... much more then you would regret a few years in a CITY!

*hugs ~ Caly

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Sun, 01-11-2004 - 10:18pm

(((((Pamela))))), I'm not sure if I remember correctly, but it seems to me that you had some college, didn't you?

 

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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 9:48am
Wow, thanks so much ladies. I got such great responses here.

I did go to college, but not for anything to do with social work. I got my Office Education Certificate.

I will do the pros and cons list. Why do I always forget about that?

I also like the idea of taking courses before I actually move. I have already taken one, and I really liked it and did well in it. But I am going to look into taking more, thanks so much for that suggestion.

Thanks again ladies.

Pamela

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Mon, 01-12-2004 - 10:28am


Pamela

I have to make this one short classes to take at work today...

I think that you should do what makes you happy, think about what will be best for you, remember that places and people dont make you happy only you can make you happy it took me to move away from my home in Connecticut and live some where else and then come back to Connecticut to see that CT really isnt my home at all that I really have not been happy living here the past 4 years and I thought that moving back to Connecicut would make me happy and it really has only made me miserable, I know my home is in Arizona I just need the courage to move back there.

Do what makes you happy really think about things write a pros and cons list for each place listen to your heart not to anything else.

Erin