I Keep Dreaming of my Ex-Boyfriend

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Registered: 07-15-2003
I Keep Dreaming of my Ex-Boyfriend
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Tue, 01-13-2004 - 12:34pm
Hi girls

I keep dreaming about my ex-boyfriend. I know he treated me badly about 90% of the time, but there are all those other times.

I drempt I was at my brother's house and Jodi (ex) came there to ask me to be with him again.

We have had a very on and off relationship. But everytime he would come crawling back it would feel so nice to be loved and wanted. And I guess part of my just waited for him to come around.

Does that make any sense?

I know that I can do better, but I just want him to be that person. When we first started dating, he WAS that person. Then he changed.

I don't care if anyone responds. I just wanted to vent.

Pamela

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Tue, 01-13-2004 - 12:49pm


I think that what happens sometimes is that our lonliness gets the best of us at times I know that I am guilty of dreaming about someone I dated and it is usually my sons dad whom I can not be with no matter what since he is married and I am friends with his wife I know I do not want to be with him I guess it is just the imagination that and being single.

Dream all you want but do not go back to someone who was bad to you it isnt worth the heart ache

Erin

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Wed, 01-14-2004 - 2:41am
Oh Pamela, I completely hear you on the whole dreaming about the ex who treated you badly, but you ached for him anyway.

What's wrong with us? I think it's a whole kind of mental illnes on it's own. When I was with him I was miserable, but I'd think he was my soulmate when he wasn't around (or when were, you know, having intense, amazing sex).

There's a great book on this. Actually, two good ones I can recommend. One is Smart Women, Foolish Choices. The other one is Women Who Love Too Much. The both deal with the insanity we go through when we are mad for a man who is oh so bad for us.

It can help to write down all the bad things about him. Remind yourself of the bad stuff. Have your friends remind you of the bad stuff. It all helps.

Your Companion in Bad Boy Dreaming,

MariaC

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Registered: 12-01-2003
Wed, 01-14-2004 - 7:29am
I know how bad and sad you feel at this moment cause I have feel the same way MANY times but THANKS GOD I have learn my lesson wich I think is the same that you are being thru. Since I don't know what's really going on your mind and your heart I can not tell if you miss him just because you really still love him or because you NEED to be loved wich are two very different things (always remember that).

Either way you should never be with someone cause you need to be loved. To be in a love relationship this must be a two way street or it won't work and if as you just said you both already tried and it didn't work leave things the way they are don't try to place a piece of a puzzle if it doesn't fit you will be loosing your time. Time that should be invest in things that gratifies you, I suggest you invest time in meeting other man that could be the piece of the puzzle and fit. Don't lose your time. I know my advices sometimes sound a little harsh. But remember a true friend will always tell us what's best for us and not what we want to hear. GOOD LUCK with whatever desicion you make !!!