Need advice/suggestions

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Need advice/suggestions
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Wed, 01-14-2004 - 12:05pm
I don't know if you remember me talking about my SIL. But she is the one I haven't talked to for almost 3 years now. I've tried a couple of times to make amends, but haven't gotten very far with that. She is 10 years older than my DH, married a guy for money, and doesn't have any kids. She'll send my kids B-day and Christmas presents, but doesn't really see them.



Now she has breast cancer. She is my DH's only sister. Should I try one more time to talk to her, and try to be the bigger person to make amends? She is the only family we have out here, and we are her only family. Part of me really wants to try to see if we can't get along, but another part just says "Screw it". She made her bed, now she can lay in it.



Please........any input would be appreciated.



Ilka


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Wed, 01-14-2004 - 12:34pm
thats a tough one....

if you dont mind me asking why are you two not getting along?

if you want to make ammends go for it but dont do it just because she is sick do it because you want to do it, I am not saying that her being sick is not important but if you feel in your heart that you want to get along with this woman than do it but dont let her sickness be the basis of it because she will sense it from you and may be resistant.

give it a try and if she is nasty to you then leave it alone you did your best you cant force her to talk to you just do what you can.

good luck let me know what you decide to do.

Erin

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Wed, 01-14-2004 - 12:39pm
We had a falling out in July of 2001. My middle DD was just 6 months old, and had a febrile seizure the day before. We went to her house to see DH parents, who were leaving that day to go back to Germany. She didn't even really ask about DD, just proceeded to talk about me to his parents. I confronted her and asked her to please stop it,and if she had to say something to say it to me. Well, it turned into an ugly argument and ended with her throwing me out of the house. She doesn't take criticism well at all. Since then I haven't seen her. Just before my 3rd DD was born last year, I tried to call her and basically say" Come on, we had our differences, but can't we get passed it". She refused unless I would profoundly apologize and guarantee her I wouldn't treat her like that again. Whatever........

So now it's almost 3 years later..........



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Wed, 01-14-2004 - 5:08pm

*hugs