not sure what to do

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Registered: 12-16-2003
not sure what to do
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Wed, 01-21-2004 - 2:43pm
Ok I need to know if I am being paranoid or not. Lately I have had this feeling that all relationships I have in my life are on the rocks in some way or another. My friends my husband etc..

I do not know if I am feeling this way because all of a sudden I need more attention I need more contact from people or is it that people are really withdrawing from me? I can not have a normal conversation with my husband. The only communication we have is when he wants sex or wants to know what’s for dinner. Other then that I am lucky to get 2 sentences out of him. When I do talk to friends or husband I feel like I am annoying them and they have to respond because they feel there obligated to do so not that they want to. I feel as though I am a burden to everyone. I don’t know where I stand with anyone. I haven’t had this feeling for a long time just in the past few months. I feel I am losing touch and losing everyone. It hurts when your own husband doesn’t want to talk to you that he would rather sit in front of a computer then have contact with you. If I try to discuss my feelings with hubby it turns into a fight. I have not confronted friends I had a friend whom acted as if I was a thorn in her side so I stopped talking to her it was a month before she came looking for me asking me where I’ve been. I have yet to respond. If they were a true friend she wouldn’t have waited a month to contact me. I just don’t know what’s going on I am an easy going person I get along with most people and make efforts to stay in contact with them until they treat me like a rug. What is going on or I am just being super sensitive?

DG

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 01-21-2004 - 3:01pm

Hi DG!


I understand alot of where you are coming from because my depression stems from Low self esteem so I often felt like I was bothering people too.


Since for you though,

*hugs             

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-16-2003
Wed, 01-21-2004 - 5:43pm
Thanks for the reply I have been married for 8 years and I am 27 going on 28. I have always had low self esteem as a teenager I turned that low self esteem into an eating disorder because I felt I was fat and thats why I wasn't cool or popular. The hubby thing we used to talk alot just about anything but lately hes seems distant like hes not really there. I guess that started when he started working where he is now. I just recently got out of a 7 year tour with the Army and since then (Aug 03) I have had bad mood swings I can cry at a drop of a hat. I worry if people like me or not which never used to bother me. This is why I do not know if I am just becomeing clingy all of a sudden or if there was something wro with me. I went to the site for the quiz but couldn't take it because i wont be truthful ill fudge the answers to make it say I am fine! I guess I just need a place to vent right now until I get the courage to see a Dr. I hope that is ok. If not is there another board I can vent?

Thanks

DG

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Wed, 01-21-2004 - 6:02pm

You are more then welcome to vent here hun! I didnt mean to imply that if you didnt have depression we couldnt help.. I am just trying to help you get to the root of your problem.


Sounds to me like there have been some big changes in your life recently if you just got done with a 7 year tour of the Army.

*hugs             

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Wed, 01-21-2004 - 9:50pm




Wecome (((((((((((((((((((((((((DG)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))


I know that for me, all the changes in my life in the past year, have made my depression much worse.