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Depressed when Live in boyfriend left
| Mon, 01-26-2004 - 12:58am |
Hi everyone,
I am new here. I will start with the reason I am depressed. For one it runs in my family. Second, I have endimitriosis and have had 2 open surgeries to remove cysts. Both times I had to go on a shot called Lupron which causes the symptoms of depression and menopause. I am only 26 and have been thru menopause twice already... I had my last surgery in August and went on the shot again in September. I started having the symptoms of depression and this affected all my relationships especially the one with my live in boyfriend. I neglected our relationship for months.. I never wanted to go out, would pick fights with him and anyone else who was around.. He eventually left 3 weeks ago after dealing with this for months. I was even more depressed and devistated. I tried to explain that when your depressed you don't care about anything. It wasn't that I didn't love him. I was down about everything. Even my co-workers said that I haven't been the same cheery out going person I used to be. To top it all off my ex was confiding in a female friend of his the past couple months on and off. Now since we broke up he talks to her on a daily basis. He said he talks to her about us and she told him to stick it out with me. Well the other night I found out that after they got drunk together the other night they hooked up.. He said it just happened, it wasn't planned. I am hurt and devistated. I went to the doctor to talk to him about anti-depressants and he took me off the shot instead. I told my ex and explained I want to fix our relationship. I made him move all his stuff out after I found out about the other girl. I am crushed and now even worse than before... Do I forget him and move on? He said he tried to do everything he could to make me happy the past couple months and nothing worked... He doesn't seem to understand what depression does to a person...
I am new here. I will start with the reason I am depressed. For one it runs in my family. Second, I have endimitriosis and have had 2 open surgeries to remove cysts. Both times I had to go on a shot called Lupron which causes the symptoms of depression and menopause. I am only 26 and have been thru menopause twice already... I had my last surgery in August and went on the shot again in September. I started having the symptoms of depression and this affected all my relationships especially the one with my live in boyfriend. I neglected our relationship for months.. I never wanted to go out, would pick fights with him and anyone else who was around.. He eventually left 3 weeks ago after dealing with this for months. I was even more depressed and devistated. I tried to explain that when your depressed you don't care about anything. It wasn't that I didn't love him. I was down about everything. Even my co-workers said that I haven't been the same cheery out going person I used to be. To top it all off my ex was confiding in a female friend of his the past couple months on and off. Now since we broke up he talks to her on a daily basis. He said he talks to her about us and she told him to stick it out with me. Well the other night I found out that after they got drunk together the other night they hooked up.. He said it just happened, it wasn't planned. I am hurt and devistated. I went to the doctor to talk to him about anti-depressants and he took me off the shot instead. I told my ex and explained I want to fix our relationship. I made him move all his stuff out after I found out about the other girl. I am crushed and now even worse than before... Do I forget him and move on? He said he tried to do everything he could to make me happy the past couple months and nothing worked... He doesn't seem to understand what depression does to a person...

No one can really tell you what to do in this situation. People quite often do stupid, awful things when they are drunk that they would never do sober. I know I have! That's why I stopped drinking.
I also know that it's hard to be in a relationship with someone who is depressed. I have been in both positions on that one. It sounds like working on your depression is the first step you need to take. It will help you and help you determine if you really want him back. It probably won't work with him until you get yourself in a better position emotionally. You can also do counseling with him, even right now when you are broken up. There is such a thing as "exit counseling" for the end of a relationship or to determine if it is the end after all.
I'm glad that your doctor is helping by taking you off of the shot. I hope that makes a big difference. Other things that help the physiological side of depression include: wheat bread, bananas, B-complex vitamins (VERY HELPFUL!!!), not drinking coffee, and an herb called SAM-e. The herb SAM-e is available at any health food store. My cousin had amazing results with that. His lifelong depression was cured by SAM-e in a few short days. You are supposed to give it about 10 days to three weeks to see if it will work for you. It is much more helpful for depression than St. John's Wort.
This is a great place to get support, feedback, and lots of understanding.
Good Luck,
MariaC
((((((Linds)))))), I just want to suggest that before you start taking something like SAM-e you should check with your doctor.
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