TOO TIRED, NEED TO GO AWAY FOR A WHILE
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| Mon, 02-02-2004 - 1:18pm |
Sorry that I have not been around for a few days life is not so great right now....
I am having a rough time with my best friend, went to visit her in Mass, and I was with her roommate who is also a friend of mine we had a few drinks and ate and just talked wondering where my friend Sareen was we kept calling her and she told us that she was having a drink at work and then would be home this was 11pm she didnt walk into the door until after 2am.
I yelled at her started to cry ect.....
needless to say I m not happy.
I was also talking to punam about how Sareen says she was molested and I am in no way saying that it didnt happen, but Sareen tells people that I too was molested and I wasnt that makes me mad she also has a habit of telling people that I have an eating disorder people that I do not know so anyways sareen states that she would have oral sex with this old man and that is why she is good at it now...she says that his house was the hang out for all the kids but it wasnt she claims that it happened to all of us but I went thru the motions of my past and that was not one of the things that happened to me, and part of me doesnt think that Sareen was molested at all I tried to talk to her yesterday about going thru catholic charities or whatever it is called she says that she wants to only see someone who does sexual abuse I told her that maybe she should try to talk about her family life and her life iin general that it may be very helpful and she went on a tangent about being molested she wont even try to look at other things in her life she says she doesnt respect her father because he works for a great hospital in new york and is a liver specialist who does detox for drug addicts and whatnot I respect anyone who has a job she is just so negative and blames it all on this old man, I really dont think any of this happened to her I know i am horrible but I cant help it she drinks way too much does drugs has slept with over 100 men she is 27 years old she is killing herself and I refuse to watch her do this any longer.
Things with me are very odd right now cant say that it is good cant say that it is bad
I need to go away for a while find out where I am in life
thanks ladies
I love you all
Erin

((((((((Erin, honey)))))))), it sounds as though you have been making
I am in kind of a rut myself these days, but I just wanted to send you some hugs and let you know that you are important to me.
Take care
Pamela
Thanks so much for the wonderful reply to my post. It means so much to me!
Your friend sounds like she has some serious childhood issues. Obviously, you know that already. It's quite bizarre that she says you were molested when you don't believe you were. I suspect that one of my brothers may have been molested, but I would never assume he was. He has a few behaviors that are red flags. Of course, my dad was a notorious child molesting priest in the town where we grew up. My bro may have been molested by my dad. But I wouldn't assume he was! That's a major thing to say about someone else. It's private, too.
As for the eating disorder, you think you may have one, right? It sounds like you are very thin and don't eat much. Plus, the diet pill thing. That might not be such a stretch to say, but it's still quite private. I wouldn't want someone else telling others about something that I don't want to talk about myself.
Erin, when someone is abusing alcohol and drugs is in a spiral of crazines. They can't be honest and are not capable of personal growth. That's the hard truth. She may use the molest thing to get sympathy and attention. Even if it was true, it's up to her to take responsibility for her life.
I'm so sorry that you are in this situation. As you know, I am also having issues with a close friend. It's so painful when you care about someone and you can't get through to them. Unfortunately, substance abusers usually have to hit some kind of bottom to go for help themselves. Others can try to get them help, but they don't commit to it until they have destroyed their lives on some level that is unbearable to them. That threshhold is different for everyone.
Thanks again for responding to me during this difficult time for you. Good Luck! We're always here.
Love,
MariaC