Need your help...

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Registered: 02-05-2003
Need your help...
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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 11:37pm
Not sure how to deal with this all....how do I let them know that I'm leaving? Just pack and leave? Tell them?? I NEVER signed a lease, and have paid all my rent. I'm just not sure what to do. I'm so incredibly unhappy right now, I don't know how to handle anything. I had an observation from my boss today, and let me tell you it wasn't pretty. I'm so tired of feeling like crap, and all because of this living situation. Told mom and dad that I'm coming home, they seemed relieved somewhat. Dad is still yelling about how I should have saved more, and I need to be on my own blah blah blah....I can't deal with that anymore. I just need to figure out how to go. dbf, and cousin told me that they would help me, so I know I have some support, even if it isn't from my house. Sigh....thanks again for your help.

Trix

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Registered: 05-12-2003
Thu, 02-05-2004 - 12:42pm
If you haven't signed a lease and you paid all your rent I think you can just tell them you are leaving. At least you do have support even if it isn't from your family. Good luck and let us know. Love and Hugs Andrea
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 02-05-2004 - 2:52pm
Have a sit down with the roommates and tell them that you are leaving that things just are not working out for you there any longer and that it is best that you leave.

since there is no lease signed you have no obligation to stay if you are up to date witht he rent then you wont have anything to worry about unless you are there for longer than anticipated and I am not sure how your rent works some pay at the begining of one month which is really for the month that just passed I know odd but true.

just try to leave on somewhat good terms

good luck hun.

Erin
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Registered: 03-22-2003
Thu, 02-05-2004 - 4:28pm

Hun,


after the way they have treated you , you owe them no explainations or anything for that matter. I would just let them know very up front, that its Not working out and you are planning to move out on "such and such" a day and thats it.


Right now just let your Dad's comments roll off your back hun because you know its what you have to do right now and that Life is about change and it wont be "forever" !


Sending Love ............valentine

*hugs             

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Fri, 02-06-2004 - 12:07am
i'm sorry, but i haven't been around to know all of the details. i just wanted to tell you to do what makes you happiest and be where makes you happiest. i have had horrible roomates, and there is nothing worse. it is your home, where you sleep and rejuvenate and you need to be in a good place. my father would be horrible if i had to move home, so i understand the dad making you feel bad. if you want to move home, don't let him get to you. even have one time where you really tell him that you need to be home and you need him not to critize you. just think about what makes you feel the most comfortable, and do that. hope it works out! if anyone gives you a hard time, send them to us- we've got your back. i may be scrawny, but i'll kick some roomate and dad butt for you!
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Fri, 02-06-2004 - 11:14am




I so totally agree with you voguegirl15.

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Registered: 05-16-2003
Fri, 02-06-2004 - 1:04pm
i agree with caly, after how they have been to you i wouldn't feel obligated to tell them anything. i would just tell them the morning of your move 'oh, btw, i am moving today', and that's it. don't listen to your dad, parents forget how harsh words can be sometimes. they think they are helping, doing the whole tough love thing, and in the meantime they are destroying you from the inside out. just remember when things are getting hard and you are feeling bad, remember that dr has a wonderful bedside manner. :) best wishes.

stephanie

oh, btw, with the pending divorce and what not i have alot of pent up rage i can definitely do a little butt kicking right now. let me know. ;)

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Fri, 02-06-2004 - 1:18pm

(((((((Trixie))))))), I'm with the others.

AcornLeaves