How can I help my depressed BF?
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| Thu, 02-05-2004 - 10:30pm |
He has had a hard time following through on things he says he is going to do in our relationship. Like taking me out to dinners and movies. We hardly ever do anything together anymore. He doesn't make my birthday special like he did before. This Christmas he did try to get in the spirit. He promised a great christmas but because he was depressed he didn't work and we didn't have a christmas. I can handle not having gifts, that is not what it is about but we just didn't spend a happy time together that day. We set a wedding date but he said he wanted to hold off, which is for the good right now. It has just been so many set ups that felt good, only to have them let down.
You would think since I have experienced depression almost all my life I would know how to help him but I feel helpless. I know depression is different for men. I just wish I knew how to help him. Our relationship is going down hill but we both want to save it. He has agreed to go to couples therapy(again). We went awhile back with my therapist but he didn't like her. It wasn't like she was ganging up on him. He said he wants to go to a therapist neither of us know. I think that is a good idea. I believe he wants to make things better but can't right now with the depression hanging over him. Right now I feel so many different emotions, anger, fear, helplessness, etc.
I feel so overwhelmed right now. Any thoughts on how I can help him?
Thank you,
LB

Welcome, (((((((((Lovebug)))))))))!
I have to tell you I am not feeling very well tonight, but I do want to direct you to some information.
Thank you for taking the time to answer me. I am sorry to hear you are not feeling good. I hope you feel better soon. I will get the book about couples batteling depression. We need something to help us out.
Take care and again I hope you feel better soon.
LB