Typo in previous post...pls read

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Registered: 02-05-2003
Typo in previous post...pls read
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Sun, 02-08-2004 - 7:06pm
In my original post, it said that dbf was physically abused. That news would have been more easy to accept, being that I'm a survivor myself. He in fact was sexually abused. Have no clue how do even deal with it. I posted on the sexual abuse board looking for some help, and I know he needs therapy, but need some options to help him when he wakes in a cold sweat, or things don't "quite work out" when we're alone. Don't get me wrong, I'm very supportive, and understanding, however, I don't know how to make him feel better or get out of that place where he's at. Thanks for re-reading.

Trix

PS--I may start to use another handle...chocolatelablover. Created it, because found out my sister has been using my parent's computer after me...long story. Just an FYI!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 02-09-2004 - 10:09am
Erin, I am now up to speed. I will think on it. I may have some good thoughts or suggestions for you with some work in my brain. Give me a little time.

In the meantime, know that you being support is the BEST thing for him and you. What a wonderful woman you are! It takes someone with a strong heart and some beauty inside to stick it out when hearing something like this.

There are a lot...lot of shallow people in the world and you are NOT one of them. I knew I liked you. What a beautiful human! You a) care about this guy and b) are so great to come to your friends to try and figure out how to help.

I am about to be late for work....yikes. I just did not want to not post.

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.

Take care,

Lisa-)