expressing anger

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Registered: 02-10-2004
expressing anger
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 5:03pm
I have just learned that my husband of 22 years wants to separate from me. after learning that I discovered he has a girlfriend. As a Christian I am finding it hard to feel real anger at him. Sure I don'tlike what is going on, but I can't find the anger that I know must be in there. How can I access it, feel it then get rid of it? Part of my problem is that I still love him. Naturally I have been feeling depressed and anxious about all this. Your insights would be greatly appreciated.

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Tue, 02-10-2004 - 9:19pm




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Welcome to the board.

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 1:24pm
I experienced something similar with my husband about a yr and a half ago. While he didn't actually meet and have an affair he met a "friend" online and had hrs and hrs of phone conversation with her. When I found his cell phone bill he told me he was completely unhappy and wasn't sure he wanted to be married anymore. We didn't split and ended up going to counsling and things are fine today. The thing is when this all happened I didn't feel anger at first either. All I felt was panic and pain. My main thoughts and goals were to keep the marraige together. The anger did come later and still is here at times. I think the anger will come for you, just don't deny yourself any of your feelings and let them come as they will. If you aren't seeing a therapist, I would highly recommend one. You are going through alot and I know persaonlly I could have never handled my situation alone. Good luck to you.

Shannon