thank you guys (and more w/poss trigs)

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Registered: 03-30-2003
thank you guys (and more w/poss trigs)
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Tue, 02-10-2004 - 6:00pm
thanks to all of my friends who have been responding to me and helping me out lately. your words definitely helped me put things into better perspective. the strange thing about what is going on with my friend is that she has a great heart and is usually the kind of friend who puts others first- she has had an unbelievably bad year- her mom and a guy she liked are both going through chemotherapy, and i want to say 5 friends/ family members died and another 2 or 3 were in critical condition at some point after accidents. it was almost surreal- like it doesn't happen to most people, so i wonder if she is reacting and things are just coming out wrong. i also know that if she knew how much her behaviour was bothering me it would kill her. so, i think i need to talk to her about it.

my family is a mess- although that is not all that different, and i want them to be better because i love them, but i have to surrender that i cannot help everyone, sometimes people have to help themselves. they have all given up on life, and they even admit it- they have the attitude that life didn't work for them, so they are just existing rather than "living." my mom used to be a vibrant wonderful person, but now she is serving my emotionally abusive and now handicapped father. my almost 23 year old brother is living at home and flunking community college classes that people are willing to help him to pass. it is hard to be the only one who wants to live a wonderful life, anf their model makes it seem like a hard thing to do.

the depression is definitely hitting me right now. but i am trying to keep going anyways. i wanted to lay around all day today but instead i have been cleaning my apartment like crazy and looking for small jobs online and taking care of some things i have been putting off. i still feel really low right now, but i am going to take my meds and try to keep going and hopefully i will be back on track soon. i have my acting class tomorrow and my boyfriend is taking me to see hairspray for valentine's day- so i have some stuff to look forward to. hopefully i will be better soon. thanks for listening and for being great friends.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Wed, 02-11-2004 - 9:55am


I think that it is awesome that you are going to see hairspray, I heard great things about it and would love to see it myself someday soon.

I think that it is wonderful that you have someone for valentimes day I always get a little envy in me when people are with someone and I am not which this year will be the first year in a long time that I will be alone for the holiday but I am also happy for those people at the same time.

Your friend I feel bad for her that she had such a bad year maybe her doing these things is her way of reacting like you said talk with her let her know how you feel and that you dont really like it she very well could not be aware of what is going on she may not see her actions at all I know alot of the time people dont realize the way they act or talk to others until it is pointed out to them...I wish you the best of luck with her and I hope that everything turns out in your favor and yourfriendship stays intact.

Your family...what caused them to become this way? why did they just give up on life?

I hope that sometime soon they find their way and start to live again.

I wish you the best of luk with all that is going on with you and your family and friend.

Erin