Valentines Day -- single people left out

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Registered: 02-11-2004
Valentines Day -- single people left out
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Wed, 02-11-2004 - 3:40pm
I hate Valentines Day. It is so commercialized, and no one seems to give consideration to single people. Most people seem to think I want to be included in any act re: this stinking day, and it just makes me feel worse and my depression plummates deeper and deeper. I'm glad it's on Saturday this year; I think I'll be hibernating all day.

I'm so tired of being lonely, job hunting for ages, and the death of my cat almost a year ago (I really dread 3/9).

I know I'm not the only one to feel like this, and I could be worse off, but I just had to get this off my mind.

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Registered: 10-20-2003
Sat, 02-14-2004 - 12:47am
When I was divorced before I met my current SO, I would get so very depressed over Valentines day. The sad thing is, it's not the day itself, it is the darn commercialism, everywhere you turn. A couple of years ago I bought two roses, one for myself and one for my daughter, so we could say we got flowers!! It made me feel better. Now I am with a wonderful guy, and found myself tonight still feeling down, because I don't think he got me anything, and now I feel so guilty for being so materialistic!! I was in the grocery store earlier and all the guys buying roses and cards and stuff, and I know that is not really what is important, because ken would buy me any of those things any day of the year "just because". He's not big into holidays, and he believes that if you love someone you show them everyday, not because society says a certain day is when you should do it! Sorry, I got off the topic here, just wanted to say that I think it is the atmosphere of commercialism that gets us down, and we all have to love ourselves first, so everyone make sure and treat yourselves extra-special for Valentines day!!

Wendy

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Sat, 02-14-2004 - 10:00am
Valentines Day is just so much hype. Don't feel bad and/or left out just because you're single, this is a manufactured holiday so spend it taking good care of yourself! Call a friend, watch a good movie or read a good book, and I liked someone's suggestion that you adopt a cat.

I am married but will be spending this day "single" because my bipolar DH is in the hospital (for the ninth time in 7 years). So, I can definitely sympathize...

So sorry to hear about your cat. We lost our tom cat to cancer 2 years ago and were devastated. But we still had our wonderful girl cat and have since adopted another kitten, who is a delight. It so tough to lose a loved pet but there are others out there who could use your love and attention.

Hugs to you!

Leslie

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