New - sad & frustrated

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Registered: 04-06-2003
New - sad & frustrated
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Fri, 02-20-2004 - 1:13pm
I'm new to the board, although I've been lurking for a while, and I hope you ladies can help me out. I'm 29 years old, and I have a 1 year old son. I was diagnosed with post partum depression about 6 months ago, and was put on Lexapro for it. It has done wonders! I feel a million times better than I did. The problem is that I still have bad days (just like everyone) and everytime I do, dh and my mom start accusing me of not taking my meds. It's like "excuse me, am I not allowed to have a bad day?" Plus, they don't seem to understand that the medication isn't going to magically solve all my problems. Yes, it helped balance me out. But it can't change the fact that I'm lonely and have no friends locally. It also can't change the fact that I don't have any money to go and do anything where I might be able to socialize (I've heard a million suggestions to solve this, but none really work for me: the library is good, but unfortunately, story time for my son's age group is on a day/time that I'm working. It's freezing cold out, so parks aren't an option...etc...). Anyway, these things frustrate me, and I feel like I'm not allowed to be frustrated or sad anymore. My mom & dh are the only people who even know about the ppd, and I don't really care to have to fake a "happy face" for them all the time too. But that's what I'm feeling like I have to do.

Sorry for the long vent - I appreciate you listening...

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 4:48pm




Welcome to the board Terrim24,


I am sure it is frustrating no end to have the people who know about your PPD think that you aren't taking your meds.

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Sat, 02-21-2004 - 10:52am

Hi Terri!


I understand totally where you are coming from sweetie... I didnt have post partum depression but we did move away from family and friend when my son was 15 months old and I didnt know a single soul... To top that off shortly after getting here I got pregnant, but miscarried at 14 weeks and had to go thru that totally alone as my hubby needed to stay home with the baby..


Anyway what I finally did was look around and join some Playgroups with my Son.. not only was it good for him and let him begin to interact with other kids but it gave me an easy way to meet people and learn the ins and outs of being a Mom... I also did make a good grown up friend out of the deal!

*hugs