New Here, saying Hi and I'm blue today.

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New Here, saying Hi and I'm blue today.
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Mon, 02-23-2004 - 8:56pm
There's this board I belong to, only yesterday, they asked us to fill up a form again, about 'birthdays and anniversaries'. I've done it awhile back, and just reminding the new members to fill theirs if they haven't already. I posted again, that I've filled it up already, but my Bday, is just around the bend with a wink. Then I went back again, to edit that, what was the use of filling it up, if nobody sees it, to wish someone a happy birthday greeting.

Well, today IS my birthday, and still nobody wish me happy Bday. I got one card, from DH and his family NOTHING. They knew I turned 50last year, they were there to help me celeb. I didn't even hear from my kids. Now, I felt depressed, because I know they love me, but I didn't got a phone call, nor email. I'm just feeling blue that I'm last on their list. When someone has a birthday, I always wish them so they'll remember me when it's my turn. My BIL's Bday is next week, I don't like Chinese food (not anymore), maybe I won't even show up for his 50th.

Another thing: I just wanted a new roofing done. I've called 35 contractors to give me an estimate. People just don't want to work. I've check their CCB#, and really being careful not to hire someone who have been suspended. Mom hired someone who left all their equiptments, and not finished the job, and end up in jail. We're trying to collect the money. so I don't want to make the same mistake with contractors. Only one came over to give me an estimate. I found out, DH wants new foundation for our garage, new siding, new roof, new gutters, retaining wall. Some people don't do foundation, or they don't do metal.

Thanks for listening

ilvdana

P.S. I heard from one of my sons, and I end up falling apart. I was so depressed, but that call made me a bit better!




Edited 2/23/2004 10:39:50 PM ET by ilvdana24

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Mon, 02-23-2004 - 11:03pm












HippoHippo

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Tue, 02-24-2004 - 12:09am

I know all too well how it hurts not to be remembered on a birthday!

AcornLeaves
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Tue, 02-24-2004 - 8:27am

HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY

*hugs             

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Tue, 02-24-2004 - 12:51pm
Thank you everyone who replied! I'm usually not hit in a blue mood during or on that same day. There were times in the past that I got hit with that mood when I was 30. Then at 40 again. At 40, I decided if I could make it 10more years, I can make it to 50. It's that insecurities of turning middle age. I'm just hit, because of that stupid nightmare I had,(back in Hitler or the Japanese war, women and children getting blown away as they enter the fun center, and those who enter don't know there's no exit, women getting raped and sodmz, really sick to be dreaming on your birthday) then it just keep building up.

I'm much much better this morning. Thanks for having a board, maybe I can stay longer insted of lurking and give someone some support. If you allow me to.

Dana

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 1:11pm

Welcome again, Dana!

AcornLeaves
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Tue, 02-24-2004 - 2:45pm
I was trying to think back, why I'd have a bad dream and what I did/saw the night before.

Friday: took mom shopping. She was crying, telling me what happened to her and her sister, during WWII, how they were killing men/women/children with their bayonets. She wanted me to know, because she's starting to open up to me. She even told my dad, that she finally told me about it. It was like a relief for her that I knew.

Sunday: DH & I were watching Desparado, with Antonio Banderas and Selma Hayek.

In my dream, I saw one of the 'soldiers' who was about to rp this woman, and the 'soldier' was someone I knew, and I just wrote him a letter, that night. = a mixture of all that came the dream.

Thanks again, Barb for the welcome. Today, I got a belated card from MIL. Later that last night, I got a call from my other son. :) In all the boards, I end up getting a total of 25 wishes, still nothing from the 'other board' who asked our B-dates. Someone there, whose Bday was last month, was still getting new wishes, and that's current post. I thought they were my 'friends'. It must be just an oversite, really.


Edited 2/24/2004 2:47:53 PM ET by ilvdana24

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Tue, 02-24-2004 - 3:34pm

Dana, my thought is that it would be appropriate for you to let them know that they missed your birthday.

AcornLeaves