possible hysterectomy and depression
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| Tue, 02-24-2004 - 3:44pm |
I have a uterine condition called hyperplasia atypical complex. Undetected uterine cancer exists along with the condition as much as 40% of the time. The doctor is suggesting the possibility of a hysterectomy. Luckily uterine cancer is usually highly treatable.
However, I am only in my late thirties and still don't have kids. (I married fairly late in life.) My husband is more enthusiastic about us adopting. (rather than seeing me deal with my various physical ailments worsening along with the possibility of post partum depression.) I however, have a deep seeded desire for a biological child. (even given my health and age.) I feel like a hysterectomy will take away my greatest desire. (I also suffer from major depression.) I feel my depression increasing dangerously. I feel like I do not have anything to live for. (NO I AM NOT HAVING ACTIVE THOUGHTS OF SUICIDE.) I feel like curling up in a ball and sleeping forever. I cry endlessly too. WHAT DO I DO???
SA

I hear what you are saying. Can you seek a second opinion? I received diagnoses of possible uterine cancer a few years ago. I had a large fibroid tumor which my naturopath felt should be removed. Therefore, he told me to go back to the doctor that had delivered my son. When I went to the GYN, he said that I had to have a hysterectomy. I argued with him and asked if there was any way that just the fibroid could be remove. He told me because of the size that the fibroid was and that several paps smeared had come back funny that the only thing that I could do was to have a hysterectomy. This did nothing for my depression or my anxieties. Finally with a lot of soul searching I came to the conclusion that this was my body and that I did not want the hysterectomy. So I called an old client of mine (I use to pet sit for her) I knew that she was a GYN and I remember that I had seen her on the news a few years before complaining that to many doctors where performing unnecessary hysterectomies. I called her and to make a long story short she removed only the fibroid, I was able to keep my woman parts and I did not have cancer. She explained to me that NO DOCTOR has the right to tell you that their recommendation (which by the way was not a recommendation but a You Will Do This) is the only one. The doctor that had delivered my son made me believe that what he said was the only way. Things tuned out okay for me but I really encourage you to seek a second opinion and if you are not satisfied try one more. In addition, can you find a female physician? Lady doctors sometime are a little more sympathetic then male doctors.
I wish you the best of luck in what ever you decide and know that the ladies here on the board are always here to help you. I am sending you lots of Cyber Hugs that I hope will help to carry you though.
Warm Regards,
RainydaysArgon
P.S. Just as an after thought have you ever considered seeing a naturopath?