Hello to all!

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Registered: 02-25-2004
Hello to all!
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Wed, 02-25-2004 - 11:01am
Hi everyone! I am new to this site & the whole internet thing...bear with me. I found this site as I was browsing the depession topics. This board caught my eye because of the word support. I could definately use some new friends right now. I am a mother of 3 beautiful girls (ages 4, 7 & 9) & am going through a nasty divorce/custody battle. My soon to be ex is an abusive man (mostly emotional), & has made this whole process almost unbearable. To add to the mess, he is being investigated for physical/sexual abuse on my girls. I was completely dependant on him for 6 years, & upon our seperation, he has basically tried to starve us out, no support except 2 boxes of opened, expired cereal. I could write novels about this latest turn of events in my life, but in the sake of babbeling, I'll get off that soapbox.

One other big issue is that my middle daughter is driving me nuts! She has been diagnosed as having ODD, but also has all the symptoms of being Bi-Polar. She (due to hear behavioral problems) took the brunt of the ex's rages & abuse, & now the damage is coming back full circle.

I am writing because sometimes, I feel so alone in this miserable phase in my life, & I would love to be able to connect with other women who are going through, or have been down this bumpy road. Thanks for listening!
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Registered: 01-26-2004
In reply to: nefirefly
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 11:24am

((((((Nefirefly))))))), I want to welcome you to our board.

AcornLeaves
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Registered: 11-18-2003
In reply to: nefirefly
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 11:44am


There is a board that is for abuse survivors you may want to also check that one out also, it is also a support board I know one of the girls here is on that board her name is deb.

I am sorry to hear about what you are going thru right now, your husband sounds like the devil himself.. I just dont get how people can be so cruel to their children and treat them like garbage.....

I wish I could help you better but I just dont know what to say I have never been in a situatioon like yours but I am sure that you will find alot of support here and alot better advice.

I wish you nothing but luck and peace thru all that you are going thru right now and I hope that your children are able to heal from all that they have gone thru.

Erin

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Registered: 07-15-2003
In reply to: nefirefly
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 1:20pm
Hi sweetie

Welcome to the board. This is a wonderful place to share your sorrows and your joys.

Take care

Pamela

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Registered: 02-25-2004
In reply to: nefirefly
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 1:45pm
Thank you to all that have replied thus far...it is nice to know that there are still people out there who care. I get so down somedays, & the fact that I am a prime candidate for "cabin fever" doesn't help any, it's like double whammy. My whole family lives 350 miles away, & I am new to the town where I live & don't know any of the 500 people who live here. Due to the financial strain (near bankruptcy) we don't get out much. Plus, I am unemployed, & the job market around here doesn't have much to offer, (plus I only have 2 semesters of school left for my degree...can't afford to finish right now), & I can't move closer to my family because of this pending divorce, (that got continued again until May). So, life looks rather grey most days.

How does one keep her head up & keep searching for possibilities, when the weight of the world is along for the ride(& so heavy)?
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Registered: 04-07-2003
In reply to: nefirefly
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 2:26pm

Welcome to the board ((((((nefirefly))))))))


I have been in your shoes, its not fun.

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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: nefirefly
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 5:14pm

Hi hun!


You found this board just the way I did so Welcome!!


And I am still

*hugs