need lots of input here please!!!!!!!!

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need lots of input here please!!!!!!!!
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Wed, 03-03-2004 - 2:43pm


Hello Ladies,


I know that I have not posted much latley but have been trying to respond as much as I can to other posts.

I have a problem and could use as much insight and input as possible I have been thinking alot these past few weeks and trying to come up with the right words and expressions but I can not seem to get any of them right or out in the open.

As you are all aware of I have a huge problem with anger and I am angry at myself most of all and I want help with it I really do I do not want to feel this way forever and I know in order to get on with my life I need to let go of alot of things which is very hard for me to do I feel tht if I let go all will be forgotten and I willnot remember those moments ever again and then I in turn will be forgotten that is why I get so upset when I am alone I feel as if I have disappeared....

So anyways I would really appreciate as much input as possible on how to get over all of this and move on with my life I do not want to be so hateful for the rest of my life and I do not want to hate myself for the rest of my life I just dont know how to start the ball rolling.

I dont know if anyone can relate at all to what I have written

I just want so badly to like who I am I do not want to hate me anymore

I dont know what to do I know I amy not be making a whole lot of sense right now kinda hyped up with energy which is good sinc eI have been drained for a while now I thinkit is the warm air that I have been getting this week and loving it.

Thanks ladies.

Erin

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Wed, 03-03-2004 - 3:13pm
Well, one thing to try is to write it out. Whenever you are that angry, sit down and write a letter to yourself, explaining exactly how you feel. Then you can go back and read it and try to figure out how to deal with it or what triggered it. I think it helps to see things written out.

Just a thought.......Ilka



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Wed, 03-03-2004 - 5:00pm
erin,

i wonder if you wrote down all of the things you are angry about and then had someone who knows the situation help you attack them one at a time and find a better way to look at them. like for example, if a friend is really annoying you and issues have occurred- look at your friend like you feel sorry for them that they have to act like that instead of being mad at them for it. that's just an example. sometimes when i look at the things that are upsetting me, i can make them seem less bad when i look at them with someone who knows my situaiton and can look at it differently. the reason i say someone who knows is that usually there is a solution beyond what i even say or they can really tell me other things they see in me that i don't in myself. i'm the type of person to keep my anger on the inside, so i am doing the best given we seem to have kind of opposite problems on this topic! :) i hate that you are so down on yourself because you are such a great person. please know that you are amazing, and you make a difference in so many people's lives. don't be angry at yourself, be happy with yourself! if there is anything else i can do, just let me know.

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 8:26pm

Erin,