you were listening to me yesterday, so here is my two cents. this in no way makes you a bad person. as a wise person once said, feeling are just feelings. you can't really controle how you feel. a friend of mine told me the other day that i am only human. you are only human. you are entitled to get excited or be attracted to someone. it is ok for you to be a shoulder to cry on to some extent. just be extreamly cautious. you do not want to end up being "the other woman" . you don't want to be the reason they split, or the reason he dosen't try as hard to make it work with her for that matter.nor do you want to be the rebound girl. it can only end badly that way and cause you pain. your message realy hit me today. if you recall in my last post i said i had done something dumb.well that something is that i kissed someone other than my hubby. and he has a pregnant girlfriend to boot. now before you think i am the most terrible person alive, some backround.as i said, my hubby and i have been haveing some problems lately . not connecting very well.this guy is a friend and co worker of mine. cute and really understanding. his girlfriend dose not treat him very well, but he would never leave because of the baby. i have been manic lately. when i get that way, my already high sex drive goes into over drive.it is all i think about all the time. i can't concentrate on work or anything else for that matter. it is really a stugle for me to controle it .{if anyone reading this can relate, let me know.}because of our issues my hubby has been putting me off alot, and i just i don't know lost control for a sec.this is not an excuse i know. what i did is without a doubt wrong and stupid.i went to my one and only friend about this and she said, you are only human. a mistake is a mistake, you can't help how you feel.but think about where all this can take you . good and bad points.{obviously in my case ther is more bad than good}now if you could not live with the worst case senario then don't go there.i will give you the same advice al though in your case you have done nothing wrong,how would you feel if you were the reason he didn't go back to his wife. worse yet how would you feel if you finally after so long opened your heart to this guy and you ended up just being the rebound girl, and he broke your heart.i know it is exciteing to have those feelings after so long, and that is ok. probably even good for you.but through out this whole thing where ever it ends up going. think about where you want to be, and ask yourself if this is the way to get there.i am sorry to be such a downer. i am truely happy for you to have found a connection with someone again. just be careful ok . you could really get hurt and that is the last thing you need.much love and god bless. let me know how it goes.
becky
Sweetie!
First off there is nothing Wrong with you!!
*hugs
Becky,
There is no way I would ever become the other woman.
Thanks sweetie,