I can't move out... :(
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| Sun, 03-07-2004 - 1:10pm |
For all those who posted yesterday, I can't move out, because, I'm $30,000 in debt with student loans, so when I finish school, I have to start paying for it monthly in six months of finishing, which means I have no means of living on my own. Also, as some of you figured out, I'm from Ontario, and my relatives and grandparents are in Montreal, Quebec, and I'm here in Toronto, so that is 6 hours away for me to go and stay with them for a while. That is why I said that it'll be at least five years until I could move out.
I'm also on medication, taking effexor 150mg, and been chronically depressed for all of my life, but been diagnosed with it for 4-5 years now, I believe. Anyway, my a-hole father does not help the cause, he is really the main cause of this I believe, and this whole family life I've been living. My brother is a dick-weed at times, and he doesn't really support me as much as he use to emotionally, and so this is where I am at. I just hope that I don't go utterly insane. I really hate this sooo much. I really don't know how long I could put up with this anymore.
Right now, he just ignores me, and he also treats me differently than my brother. I could tell, especially when we had to go to Montreal for a funeral, and my brother was driving, he was talking soo nice to him, and but when it comes to me, it's like, what do you want type of attitude. Anyway, like I said, I don't know how long I could put up with this.
Also, I don't have friends here who r local to me, they are long-distance from me, so, it would be hard to stay with them for a couple of days too. So, right now, it is hard for me to see the light at the end of the tunnel at the moment.
Kristina

It does seem that you can't move out. Is it only six months in Ontario that you have before you have to start paying student loans? Here in Manitoba, it's a year. I know there are things you can do to lower your payments, and there is even a way you can just pay the interest. These are things you might want to look in to.
What did you take in school?
I would seriously consider finding a therapist. One of the great things about our country is that we get these things for free. Take advantage of it sweetie! The american women on the board here don't have that luxury.
You say that you are on Effexor. In Manitoba we have Pharmacare (I think that's what it's called!) and it goes by your income. You pay a certain deductable, and then you get them for nothing. As a student, you should have a really low deductable. I am sure Ontario must have something like that. It's worth looking into.
Well, I have to run for now.
Take care
Pamela
are we from the same family!? Honey, I've been in your situation. Actually I am living it now. I'm back at the parents house with an abusive father (emotionally and physically), and a brother who is just as bipolar as the next. So nice one minute, and evil the next. I know how terrible things are right now, but judst know that things will get better. I was moved out of my house for a year and a half, and now I am back home. It's horrendous, and not a great situation, but just bear with it and know better things are coming. It's hard to see now, but, just know they are. Also, you can get your loan deferred if you want if you can't find a job to pay off the loan. Just an idea. Hope that this helped, and I'm here for you when you need to talk!
Trixie