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| Wed, 03-10-2004 - 11:09am |
I have decided to move out of my house and live with my mom for now I know I am such a looser I am 29 and moving back home with mommy, but I will be saving ALOT of money and if I can do that for at least a year I will have more than enough to move back to Arizona and be with Jakob so that is my goal I figure that living in the same house as my sister and Luis is not helping only hindering me from getting better and actually living instead of just existing and going thru the motions like I am doing now.
The down side tot his is that I may have to find a new home for Lola which makes me so sad I just look at her and my eyes swell up with tears she kept me alive when I wanted to kill myself and I know that I will be devistated if I do in fact have to find her a new home I am trying to convince my best friend to take er since she lives across the street from my mom that way I will be able to see lola and I will know that she will be taken good care of, Lola is such a baby she is so sweet and loving and funny she is my angel she has the most beautiful face and eyes god she is just awesome it kills me.
My sister and I are not speaking probably for good this time I am just so tired of her taking sides with Luis and not even hearing me out I dont need that right now.
I go to therapy tonight and I took all of your ideas and I put pen to paper well actually I typed it out and I just wrote without paying much attention to what I was writting I spelled alot of things wrong but I also got alot out of my head and I gave a copy to my shrink and I am going to give a copy to Marnie tonight and I am going to tell her what has been going on in the house see what she thinks about moving in with my mom.
So anyways things are changing I just hope that it is for the better and my mom and I dont go back to the way we used to be fighting ignoring one another I hope that this good communication we have going now stays that way wish me luck.
Erin

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I am saying prayers and postive thought for you with all the changes you are going through.
i am SO proud of you for doing this. i know there is a stigma that you can't live with your parents after a certain age, but if i could, i would. i have no money and would love to be able to save and have the comfort of no rent (and my mom). i think this will be great for you- look at it as a great thing- you get away from your sister and luis being jerks and into a better atmosphere for less money. perfect! who cares how old you are? i have a friend who is in his 30s and really really rich and chose to live with his dad because they were so close. he is moving now (today actually) because he was offered an amazing job somewhere else, and he is so sad to leave. so think of it like that. i think this will be so good for you!
Trac and Voguegirl are right about not being a looser if you have to move back home to live with your family. My in-laws have not been without one or several of their grown children coming home to stay for a time. My sister-in-law lived with her parents for nine years before marrying for the second time and moved out. We have been living with my husband’s folks for almost five years now. Families can be a real help to us and sometime a real pain.
I had emergency surgery about two years ago and I had to convalesce at my parent’s home. I thought it would be awful. I can only take my mom for short periods of time or so I thought. Spending those six weeks at my parent’s home really enlightened me about my parents. I learned more in those six weeks then I did in my forty plus years of life. I walk away from that experience with a great respect for my parents.
If we are mindful of all that is going on around us and not react so fast, to what we thought was catalysis we see things in a whole different light. I agree whole heartily with Trac about siting down with your mom and make a pack that it is okay to have a difference of opinion.
My best wishes for the best outcome in your return to your parent’s home. I am sending you lots of Cyber hugs and always remember that you have friends that will always be here at the board for you.
Warmest Regards,
RainydaysArgon
I'm looking forward to hearing Marnie's reaction to your plans.
Sweetie, you ARE NOT A LOSER!! I lived with my mom up until I was 22. You have made some goals, and now you can work toward it. There is nothing wrong with moving back home with your mom. And I am glad that you are getting away from your sister and Luis. I hope that you can work things out with your sister.
How come you can't keep Lola? That is too bad.
Take care sweetie.
Pamela