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| Wed, 03-10-2004 - 5:01pm |
Hi,
I don't suffer from depression or PTSD, but my ex-bf might, and I was hoping someone could give me some insight. My ex survived the 9/11 WTC attack, but never sought counseling. Fast forward a year, and I met him. We had the most fabulous relationship I could've ever asked for. Three months later he lost 2 family members, one of whom he was particularly close to. After this death, he became withdrawn and started showing symptoms of depression. Long story short, I confronted him and asked him to seek help. He decided he could fight this depression (or PTSD) on his own. However, he broke up with me. He told me he didn't love himself, so he would not be able to love someone else (me). This has really devastated me, as I truly love him, and would've stood by his side through treatment. When we parted, he left hope that after he was better, we could possibly try a relationship again. Anyway, now he's trying to fight this problem on his own. He takes it one day at a time. But last we spoke, he sounded very negative about "us" and told me not to let my own life pass me by.
I don't suffer from depression or PTSD, but my ex-bf might, and I was hoping someone could give me some insight. My ex survived the 9/11 WTC attack, but never sought counseling. Fast forward a year, and I met him. We had the most fabulous relationship I could've ever asked for. Three months later he lost 2 family members, one of whom he was particularly close to. After this death, he became withdrawn and started showing symptoms of depression. Long story short, I confronted him and asked him to seek help. He decided he could fight this depression (or PTSD) on his own. However, he broke up with me. He told me he didn't love himself, so he would not be able to love someone else (me). This has really devastated me, as I truly love him, and would've stood by his side through treatment. When we parted, he left hope that after he was better, we could possibly try a relationship again. Anyway, now he's trying to fight this problem on his own. He takes it one day at a time. But last we spoke, he sounded very negative about "us" and told me not to let my own life pass me by.
I'm scared for him. I watched him push his friends aside. Now, I'm afraid he's pushing me aside too. I've decided to not contact him, and see if he contacts me. So far, no contact. One part of me is angry with him for not contacting me. The other part realizes it might be a symptom of his depression. I don't know what to do. Even if I never get him back again, I want him to heal. Does anyone have any experience with this? Can anyone give me advice on what I should do? Is there anyway to help him, or does he just have to sink so low that he decides he needs to get help for himself?
Thank you so much!
