Just Need to 'Talk' poss triggers

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Just Need to 'Talk' poss triggers
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Sun, 03-14-2004 - 10:11pm
Well, here it is; Sunday evening. I haven't been able to accomplish much this weekend. That's becoming my regular routine. My husband complains about the house. I try to explain that with teaching full time and grading papers, etc in the evening, it's all I can do to keep up with the laundry. I pointed out that he could help out. He suggested we get a cleaning woman. My doctor and therapist think it is amazing that I manage to do as much as I do. yet, my husband, the person who should know when I am really feeling bad, chooses to ignore what I do and only focus on what I do not do. I try so hard. I really do. I go to school. I smile and do my work. I do extra things at school to prove I'm fine. I give private lessons, I play in the orchestra, I try . I really try. I just don't know if I can do this amnymore. It's just too hard. Why does it have to be like this? I just cannot face another week of this. There is no end to it. I really, really cannot do it. Debbie
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 5:46am

Hey sweetie if HE suggested a Cleaning woman then GO FOR IT !

*hugs             

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 5:57am
I hear you, girl. I'm struggling too. I've been on meds for about a month and the side effects have been kicking my butt, but I've really tried to suck it up and drag my butt into work and be functional. I just got into a fight with my boyfriend today because of an incident today that made him think that I'm inconsiderate and that I never think of him. Those words broke my heart because in spite of the situation I'm in right now being depressed, I try to do everything I can to make him happy and I give him everything I can possibly give him out of my heart. I know how you feel that you're trying so hard, but it's not enough. Don't give up. Hang in there.
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Registered: 07-15-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 8:04am
{{{Debbie}}}

I think you should go for the cleaning lady if you can afford it. I know you are trying your absolute hardest. Do you enjoy doing all these extra things? If not, maybe you should cut back on some of the extras so you can work on you. Unless having time to yourself is a problem. I want so much for you to get better.

Take care sweetie. Please email me at serenitycouragewisdom@hotmail.com if you EVER need to talk, okay????

Thinking of you and holding you close in my heart.

Pamela

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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 10:01am
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Edited 3/21/2004 10:17 am ET ET by musicalle
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 6:33pm
I have a lot of feelings about the cleaning woman thing. First---I really don't like the thought of someone else in here when I'm not home. Second---I like things done a certain way.

Now---on the other hand---right now a lot of things are not getting done at all! I may see about having someone come in one day a week. It might take some of the stress off.

Who knows, I may get use to having a cleaning woman and really enjoy it!

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 7:46pm

(((((((((((((((((((((((Deb))))))))))))))))))))))


If I could have someone come in and clean my home I would.