Can anyone relate? So confused...
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Can anyone relate? So confused...
| Mon, 03-15-2004 - 1:30pm |
Thanks for reading this. I'm 32, never married. I've just been diagnosed with depression, although I think I've been dealing with bits of it for years. I just started meds 2 weeks ago. The problem is, I've been dating this great guy for about 2 months now, and I always feel "unsure" of my feelings for him. He has so many of the qualities I'm looking for. He's sweet, generous, sensitive, caring, etc. We seem to want all the same things, etc. The problem is, I feel "blah" about him more often than not. When I explained the depression thing to him, he was so understanding and sweet. I am confused as to whether the way I feel about him is due to my depression or if I really am not into him. I find myself focusing on the few things I'm not attracted to about him (physically)when we're to gether, and I never feel excited about him. But, the truth is, I haven't felt "excited" or felt "fireworks" for a guy in years. Back in my early 20's I did, but always ended up getting hurt. I need some advice as to what I should do. I'm scared to end it because I'm worried I won't find another guy that treats me as well as he does, and I don't want to make the wrong decision. I'm so confused. Can depression affect how attracted I am to someone? Or is he just not the guy for me? I don't want to feel like I'm settling, but I don't want to make a mistake and find there's no one out there for me. Please help!!! My sister even said that I've passed up a lot of great guys and she can't understand it. This has happend with the last few guys I've dated, and I know it's not that I'm afraid of committment. Am I expecting too much by wanting fireworks? Any advice???

Hi Mallory!
Welcome to the board!
Yes depression can very much affect how you feel about people, because inside you are battling out how you feel about yourself.
*hugs