Feeling like i need help

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Registered: 06-03-2003
Feeling like i need help
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 3:19pm
I am 26 years old and have never really considered myself depressed but lately family members have been telling me that they think I am so I am starting to look at my life and wonder if I am. Here is my situation...i still live at home with my mum..my main reason for this is to try and save up money for a down payment on a house someday. i own a new car and i have been dating a guy for 3 years. lately i have been getting sick all the time and my mum thinks it is because i am not happy where my life is and i don't really konw what i want in the future. some of this is true. i work for a great company but do not make a ton of money. i love my job though and find it hard to ask for a raise. the next issue is my boyfirend. he is older than i am and has 3 kids. i love him a lot and love his kids and always thought that love was enough. but lately i wonder if this will hold me back...i do not want ot break up with him becuase i do love him but how can i tell if he is holding me back from having a better future..i don't wnat to lose soemthing great to find out that i would be in the same sitaution or worse without him..if that makes any sense. i think the real issue i have is money...at this point i don't see how i am ever going to be able to afford a ohuse or anything ...i know i am just starting out but it really makes me sad when i actually sit down and think about what i want in the next 5 years. i would like to be married and have a baby byt hte time i am 30 so i basically have 4 years. we have talked about marriage and babies and we are both on the same page but moeny is a big issue...it always comes down to money. i guesss i am just wondering if anyone else out there has felt like they are just never going to make it in the world..how do i pull myself out from this...i think i need to move out and start my own life...i think i might even want ot live by myself for a while before i move in with my boyfirend..so everything is all mine for once..but it would be so much more practical if we lived together...save money adn other stuff. please can soeone pleaase jsut give me some advice. thankx for reading.
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Registered: 04-29-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 3:43pm
Advice:

I think you will be even more insecure if you live with your boyfriend, unless you are married and have a committment. Plus, if you break up, then the kids will be hurt.

You may want to take a depression quiz and talk to your doctor about it. Try taking a multivitamin, eliminate processed/refined foods and eat more veggies. You should also get some daily exercise. *Changing my diet and exercise cured my depression & chronic fatigue syndrome*

Take some time to care for your self and ask God for mentally clarity & direction.

God Bless,

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