Hiring a Cleaning Woman!

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Hiring a Cleaning Woman!
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 10:01pm
OK---I've read your replies and I think you are ALL correct. I am going to hire someone to come in and do bathrooms, kitchen, vacumning and mopping. i.e. the bigger stuff that is so time consuming. It will actually be a big relief. I spent all of orchestra rehearsal tonight thinking about the papers that needed to be graded and the upstairs bathroom that needed to be cleaned. I obsessed about it so much that I started crying as soon as I reached the car.



I've also made a decision about my therapist. I really like him---but I've been seeing him for three years now and I don't feel we have done anything. I had left my other therapist because we became good friends. The therapist I see now was associated with my pdoc's office and also heads a cancer institute and has a private practice. he's a great person and for the first few months he said we couldn't work on anything because he was just trying to keep me alive. Then I would ask what we were going to work on and he would say I wasn't ready yet. A few months ago I finally talked to my doctor about it and he said I needed to confront my therapist and tell him I really wanted to know what we were working on. I did just that quite a few times and always got vague answers. True---a lot of the time, he was basically just keeping me from suicide-----but I knew we should really be working on something. I'm rambling.......sorry.

Today I called another therapist that I had heard about and I have an appointment with her on Friday. She understands that I am kind of' shopping around' and she is only going to charge me my co-pay (since I'm sure my insurance will not cover while I shop!) I thought I would see her a couple of times and see how it is. The timing is good because my therapist is out of town and had cancelled my appointment this week and I don;t have another appointment with him till the end of the month. I see my doctor on the 25th and will ask him what he thinks too. There may be someone else he thinks would be a better fit.



Sorry this was so long. The cd from my last concert was in tonight,so I'm going to go listen to it and then get to bed.

Debbie

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 10:12pm
That sounds like a wise decision, Debbie...I think that it could give you some much-deserved stress relief. I agree with you with respect to switching therapists, too...if you feel like you aren't making progress with this one, it seems like "shopping" for another one could be a big step in the right direction.

I really admire the way you are taking action to make your life better...I wish you luck with it all...and I hope you enjoy your concert CD...I'm sure you have a lot to be proud of.

Hugs,

Rose

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 10:13pm

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Deb))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))


Good for you, see you are making baby steps too.