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How do you cope?
| Sat, 03-20-2004 - 3:10am |
How do you cope with daily life? I am swamped with things right now; wrapping up affairs after my husband's death and my own work. I've pretty much done everything I can at this time about the first, the last and also the most imporatant part I have had to entrust to a representative which is killing me because I feel out of control. I want to start a new life so much, and leave all of this behind, but I can't do anything until this is taken care of.
I started working in January, two weeks after my DH died, and I'm starting at the bottom because I didn't send out anything in the two years I was taking care of him. So now I'm working at home, writing, which I love, but I'm so sick with the medication that I'm unable to stick to my normal schedule. Normally I am a very dedicated and disciplined person; I stick to my working times and I complete what I have to in time. But now... ugh!
I have the feeling that the more I give in to the feelings of depression, the more out of control my life gets. How do you all cope? Force yourself to stick to a routine? Or do you let yourself go until the meds kick in?

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I have found that forcing myself to handle the routine things works better for me.
I am sorry for your lose..........
for me I need a structured schedual I need time limits I need to have things done at a certain time get up at a certain time take my meds at a certain time ect.....
I am a little OCD so it is easy for me to follow a schedual since it is very hard for me to do things that are not planned out.
I also work out almost everyday for about an hour it used to be 2 hours a day but I made myself cut back because I was too thin and sickly looking now I am learning to jjust work out one hour a day, but for me working out helps me relax relieves stress and makes me feel better it helps erase the bad feelings and shows me that I am taking care of myself.
but anyways there are lots of things that help me the smell of rose candles or jasmine insense petting my dog watching a good movie reading writting ect...
But you also need to let yourself grieve over your lose I can only imagine how hard it all is for you and I wish you nothing but the best and I do hope for you that in time you will be able to live your life again.
Erin
I know I need to take time for myself and to grieve, but I also need to work. I have just made a schedule; planning everything from early morning yoga sessions to work, from the necessary administration sessions to the exact moment I have to stop working to cook a meal, or take time to be with my friends, reconnect, or pamper myself. I've downloaded a timetracking tool for the pc, that you can configure to set off an alarm when you've been working on a certain project for a certain amount of time. That's definitely going to make a difference!
Anyway; I've done everything I had to do so far today, including yoga, walking my dogs, and doing the laundry. Tomorrow I am going to revise a script I have to send out to LA before the deadline next Thursday - and this just getting this done will make me so proud of myself!
Honey, that basically sounds like a good plan.