Grieving for something totally stupid

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Grieving for something totally stupid
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Sun, 03-21-2004 - 12:54pm

Anyone here who's read more than a couple of my posts knows what a Lord of the Rings junkie I am.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Sun, 03-21-2004 - 4:19pm
Their are times when I grieve over things that seem ever so small to other people but mean ALOT to me. It used to make me feel out of place but now I allow myself grieving time. After a period of time I am able to let it go and move on. These movies meant alot to you growing up so feeling some sadness over this is ok. I think if you allow yourself time to grieve you'll eventually be able to let it go and move on. If you start to get down about it pull out one of your DVD's, make some popcorn, and curl up with one of your Lord of the Ring adventures. Hugs to you~Jenn
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Registered: 03-10-2004
Sun, 03-21-2004 - 6:20pm
Lady

I disagree that it is stupid to grieve over the ending of the magnificent LORD OF THE RINGS saga. I, too, have been a big fan almost all my life, and wept tears of joy and wonder every time I saw the beautiful and awe inspiring way it was done for the movies. I totally agree with you that there is something sad in the movie world moving on from such a fabulous set of films. I don't know how producers think that any film made ever again can be as perfect. But I console myself with this. There was such a great following for these films, perhaps they will do a version of THE HOBBIT. Or someone may decide to do the PERN books by Anne McCaffrey or the VALDEMAR books by Mercedes Lackey. Of course they are not the same as the Tolkien wonders, but they also have a special place in my heart.

I would like to give you this overstated and underused bit of grief advice: Try not to dwell on the end of the era, instead be grateful you had the experience. I know it sounds cheezy, but it comforts me. I have always regretted that I was unable to see the origional Star Wars on the big screen, so I just keep thanking my lucky stars that I will always have the memories of these on-screen wonders.

Keep your chin up, and don't think pain at saying goodbye to the big screen version of something that influenced your life so strongly is "stupid".

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Sun, 03-21-2004 - 11:12pm
i think sometimes we find our safety net in places we don't realize. something that brings us comfort and happiness is hard to let go of, and when you have a routine that is making you happy it is hard to end it. i used to adore the show party of five- it was like it was broadcast to me. i was there for the first episode and then every week it was MINE- i would take "me" time to watch it (no one around me usually even liked it) and it was the best hour of the week. when it was over, i was so sad and i felt empty- i knew it was just a tv program, but my feelings were there just the same. i later realized that i DID have my tapes (i don't have that many- you're lucky to be able to have them all!) and that it was more about giving myself that time and peacefulness for myself. try to take the time you had reserved for the theatre for lotr and see some new movies or do something else alone that you enjoy. don't feel bad about it, i understand.
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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 1:27pm
Hi LadyIrish, Im sorry to hear that you are so sad. I dont think its the end of the Lord of the Rings in the theatres. I dont know if they will have sequels, but Im sure they will re-release the movies in theatres in a few years because of the popularity.

I think this provides you with an opportunity to focus on different aspects of your life. You may feel too dependent on the film and its characters..am I right or no? Anyways why dont you take some of the film's principals and use it in your own life so that you can make a difference for others.

I also look to films for inspiration sometimes. I hope you will feel better. Take Care :)