talked to exwife can't believe it helped

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Registered: 04-15-2003
talked to exwife can't believe it helped
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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 11:51am
Hi all, last time I wrote in here was regarding the one year anniversary of my bf trying to kill himself and the fact his ex wife emailed me wanting to tell me something he said. Well, I took the bait before talking to my therapist and am I glad I did. She didn't want to tell me anything he said, she wanted to know what he told me about being in the hospital after his suicide attempt. Long story short after iming her for 1.5 hours I realized how much I missed a train wreck sure to happen. He had problems his whole life and was in a constant search for "the right one" I believe he was searching for himself, trying to find some sort of happiness, and as we all know you can only get that from yourself, no one else can give that to you. I have a whole new outlook on life and our relationship. I know I can give and accept love, he at least taught me that. But I also know it never would have worked out, so I have since taken him off the pedestel I had him on for a year now. I can't believe the difference it has made in my life. I enjoy work now, interact with people etc. I told my therapist and she asked me why I feel the relief, I couldn't put it into words, but she did for me. She said I was able to see for myself that he was not perfect and that I deserve more, at least honesty. Which from talking to the ex I found he gave me very little of. I now expect everything that I can give back from whomever I am with, whether a romantic or friendship relationship. Just wanted to give you my good news. I realize I will still have my down moments, but I also realize what is important now. I know I have so much, and am so gratefull for it. Thanks to all of you who stood by me and listened.

Peg
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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 2:11pm
Hi Peg. Im so glad to hear this. It was really nice that you shared that because it is making me really want to reflect on my life and face some things that I may be denying from myself. I hope everything continues to go well for you and take care :)
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Tue, 03-23-2004 - 11:03am
I truly hope the same for you...............peace and a sense of self

hugs your way

Peg